New here and venting
Glad I found this forum. I am a BM to 2 and SM to 2. My DHoth have physical custody of our kids. Together 6 years and our entire family has gotten along pretty well and the kids have a great relationship with both of us. BD is non existent and would rather sign over his parental rights andstays out of the kids lives. BM is high conflict and DH had to go to only email in the last 6 months. It has been great. I feel though he is one step away from the OFW app. Both bio parents struggle with addiction issues and housing. There is a mediation agreement in place for skids and outlines it all. Her visitation has been drastically reduced from EOW overnights to EOW 16 hrs and now EOW or so for 3 hrs. We also have provided transportation 100% of the time. Visitation change is due to her situation and choices but its always spun to the kids like it is DH fault. I am dreading summer when she goes full psycho. Although I cant imagine what it would be like to not have your kids when you want and some SM is with them more than you. There has been so much crap over the years but I always dread holidays and birthdays...and when we plan trips and family visits and summer. When she finds out we do anything family oriented she gets so nasty and then the skids get weird and everything is off in our house. I do not ever communicate with BM and ( I think) I have been reasonable and hands off to their situation.
Does anyone have a similar experience? How do you move past it? I get so anxious around holidays and trips....Just looking to connect with other SP's.