Hello, I have a soon to be 5 year old daughter from a past relationship and a soon to be 2 year old from my current relationship. I have been with my current hubby to be for 5 years. He didn't meet my daughter for the first year. Her dad wasn't really involved with her at the time. He was off getting married and having a child with another woman. My daughter, my hubby to be and I moved in together about 6 months after they had finally been introduced and she was aware that he was my bf. The got along famously at the beginning. She would want him more then me at times. She started calling him dad prior to us moving in together. Then about 6 months later we got pregnant. About 3 weeks after that my hubby to be was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder. We have since then ran into problem after problem between the two of them. So for the sake of the remainder of this I will refer to my hubby to be as Rob, my daughter as Abigail and our daughter as Samantha.

Ran and Abigail used to do so much together. Then after Rob was diagnosed they started to drift apart. The further along in my pregnancy the more they drifted. But at the same time they stayed very close to one another. Abigails dad and I have shared parenting. She is with him for 2 weeks and with us for 2 weeks. Rob has a lot of resentment towards Abigail because of her dad. He is always telling me that he wishes it was just him, Samantha and I. That hurts me so much. I can't stand the thought of us calling it quits and Samantha having to go back and forth between homes. I see the effect it has on Abigail. We fight all the time and he makes about 1/2 the fights about Abigail. I hate it. She can be such a rotten little girl at times but when you look at her you see this pain in her eyes and she is actually the most incredible little girl alive I believe. She has so much love to give and I think that she just needs that much love back. Just as recently as last night her and Rob had a bit of a argument. He told her to sit at the table and eat her muffin, she ignored him. So I said" Abigail please listen to your dad and sit at the table and eat your muffin." Then he went off about how she doesn't listen to him and she is so rude to him. I finally lost it. I started yelling at both of them. Telling them that they both make it so hard on me. I said she doesn't always listen to me either. She listens to me better when your around. But that she is almost 6 and that she is testing to see what she can get away with. He responded that he can't go on living his life being hurt from her. I don't know what to do anymore. Any suggestions?