Hello

I have been reading this site for about a week now and I am very thankful that I found it!

I am 25 years old and have been dating my boyfriend for about 2 years. I do not have any children of my own and honestly never wanted to have one. I am an introvert and love my alone time. I own my home and I have 2 very large dogs. One is an English mastiff he is 9 months and about 130lbs so he is not done growing, the other is a Malamute and is 130lbs but is full grown she is about 6 years old.

So I have met my boyfriends children ages 8 and 12 a few months ago. I am feeling very overwhelmed by all of it. My boyfriend has this whole idea that I am going to be motherly and instantly fall in love with his children. We had talked about him moving in to my home before and I was all for it, now I am not so sure. I don't consider myself a "kid" person. I don't stop to stare at babies and the children next door annoy me to no end. They do what I call scream play. They are outside literally screaming, one time I even ran outside because I was 100% sure one of them was being slaughtered. Turns out he was pretending to be an airplane, What kind of airplane screams like a wounded ape?

My issue isn't so much with the older boy, he is very laid back, somewhat quiet and isn't fussy about much at all. The 8 year old girl on the other hand annoys me to the max. She whines, like a baby. Honestly isn't she too old? I have no idea but I can't stand it. She is very rude and is constantly interrupting everyone and anyone. She asks for money all the time and cannot entertain herself she needs constant interaction 24/7. My boyfriend does tell her that it is rude to do all of these things but that is about the most that I have seen for punishment? I get so frustrated when he says "You can't talk like that" and then she does it again and so on.

We went on a walk on day and everything was going well until she decided she wanted to hold hands with her father and I. She kept bullying herself into the middle of us and being quite annoying, she did this no less than 20 times and then when she was bored with that she started biting her brother because he would not hold her hand.

I am also worried about having them over to my house. I have seen their mothers house and it is obvious that no one picks up after themselves. There was literally a pathway to walk through and on either side was a wall of clothing, toys, shoes, backpacks, blankets..you name it. As I said before I have a 9 month old Mastiff and he is still in the puppy stage of wanting everything in his mouth and his mouth is big enough where he can and WILL swallow most anything he can. These dogs are my children and if something were to happen to one of them I would be devastated.

The girl is of course afraid of my dogs and screeches when one of them comes near her. They are well behaved and the malamute is older and really has no interest in either one but she still screams. Then I heard the sob story about when she was 1 she was nipped by a Pomeranian ..I was like you have to be joking, she was 1. I honestly think it is for attention and I refused to pen up my dog for the sake of her spotlight. My boyfriend feels that I should pen them up until she gets use to them. I feel she should be, since it is her with the issue and my dogs are harmless.

I suppose I am just confused about what is my introvert personality, if I will be able to muster up enough patience for this little girl. What can I do? I love my boyfriend very much but this is and I know is a package deal.