BM has a new friend that lives near us and has been hanging out in area. Well for the past 2 weekends she has text fdh that she would "meet" him to pick up fss. Usually we drive fss home which is about 45 minutes away because bm has always refused to meet up unless we give her 20 dollars. For the record We've just turned in the paperwork for a parenting plan to be established so that there are guidelines as far as pick ups/drop offs. fdh pays child support but because he and bm never turned in parenting plan there is nothing set in stone that she HAS to meet us anywhere for pick up/drop off nor is there anything is writing that fdh has fss every weekend...Some History: fdh and bm got along great before fdh and I got together and the judge left it up to them to fill out and turn in parenting plan and they never got around to it. However they were only "getting along" because fdh was always giving bm extra money because if he didn't comply she would always threaten to "never let him see his son again" as she likes to say... so she got her extra cash and fdh got to see his son, everyone was happy... well when I came into the picture I put my foot down on that... Apparenlty fdh didn't realize he had rights and didn't need to be giving bm extra cash... yeah I know. Also When she found out about me she suddenly wanted him back and when he shut her down she decided she hated me, she's actually stated to him that she wishes that she "could just kill me" and "why can't msg1986 just die." thus we are where we are.

Anyway back to the issue... the first 2 times she was at this new friends house she'd text that she'd meet us and then when go time came she demanded that we go find whatever house she's hanging out at to drop off fss, fdh refused both times advising her that he wasn't going to go searching for her to drop fss off and eventually she gave in and met up with us @ walgreens to pick up fss like she initially said. Well This last weekend she didn't ask to meet up she simply text fdh and stated that he NEEDED to drop fss at her friends house, her exact words were (I'm over here, bring fss here NOW) fdh advised her that he wasn't going to hunt her down, that he would meet her at walgreens, where we've met to drop off fss these past 2 weekends. She eventually text fdh that there is no parenting plan and it's his responsibility to pick up/drop off fss wherever she says if he wants to keep seeing his son and that if he didn't like it to drop him off at home with her mother/fss grandmother. Fdh didn't feel like arguing with her nor giving in to her so we just took him home to the grandmother, 45 min away, like we've been doing so all along.

Everything with BM is about control and so I know that this whole drop him here do this do that is about control, now that fdh has eliminated phone calls I feel like this is her new game. Fdh doesn't feel like he should have to go hunt her down at whatever house she's hanging out at and I agree. My question is, is it stupid that we just took him home and plan on doing so in the future? Part of me feels like if we give in to something like this that it'll lead to bigger issues in the future but then again a part of me feels like whatever lets find wherever this idiot is to drop off fss because it's only 10 minutes away as opposed to 45 minutes at her mother house where bm and fss live.

I can't wait until this parenting plan is established and we get our court date so we won't have these issues... pssh who am I kidding? we probably will but at least we will have our court paperwork in order... The more I think about it the more I feel like it's petty bullshit and we should just give in to her but at the same time I don't want to. What do you think? Anything is appreciated and if you read this entire thing I love you... thank you so much!