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Submitted by Let_therebepeace on Wed, 03/08/2017 - 8:38am

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For any of you who've been reading my post about SS14, you know he's been in a lot of trouble and creating turmoil in my home. This past weekend just about did me in. After years of slowly progressing towards the school suspension, then the criminal investigation, SS14 openly showed his disrespect towards me in front of DH. DH called BM and told her to come get SS and ALL his things, he was moving back in with her.

Little history, SS & BM pull this card all the time. When SS is in trouble at our house & goes to BM for visitation, he whines and plays the victim. SS wants to go live at BM's, BM tells SS he can - but then in the end she always brings him home on Sunday evening (if not earlier).

Well, when BM got to our house, DH had already made SS pack all his belongings and had them on the sidewalk waiting for her. She had put on a good front, on the phone - crying "I need my son to come live with me, he needs his mother". But wouldn't you know, when she got there, she wanted to speak with DH...I decided I would rather sit outside in the sunshine with an adult beverage and enjoy my day. DH filled me in later.

BM said she couldn't take SS because she was leaving her husband and she herself didn't have her own home or car or anything! I didn't truly expect SS would be going with BM. I was just proud of DH for forcing the issue so that SS & BM will hopefully stop throwing that up at DH.

Here's the funny part. I have a Miniature Pincher dog. She is our little protector. Apparently, BM asked DH to "take care of our son" and leaned towards him to hug him...my min pin attacked her! She jumped from DH's lap up onto the arm of our sofa onto BM's back/neck & was barking, snarling & biting at BM. My min pin is all of 3 pounds, but vicious. I am not sure why BM thought it was appropriate for her to try to touch/hug my husband when it's well known (the skids talk about it all the time) that she still loves him. However, DH did not even get a chance to stop her before my puppy did. They say a dog is a very good judge of character, in this case I definitely believe that to be true!

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Submitted by hereiam on Wed, 03/08/2017 - 9:38am

Pretty sure my DH, himself, would snarl and bite BM if she every tried to hug him.

I hope you gave your little min pin a treat!

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Submitted by Let_therebepeace on Wed, 03/08/2017 - 10:43am

DH still has him grounded to his bedroom, nothing but a bed/pillow/blanket in the room, for the school suspension.

As for the criminal investigation: the investigator left it in the hands of the mother of the child who was hurt/bullied. After a meeting with parents/boys last night, she gave two options: either SS and the other offender can attend youth counseling with her son (because he was a willing participant to the fight) or she would move forward with pressing charges. She can press charges because the other child jumped her son from behind while SS video'd from that child's cell phone with the plan to upload it to the internet. The mom says she really doesn't want to press charges...so she gave the boys a choice...of course SS14 jumped at counseling vs facing a judge and possible YDC. With the other issues at home and school, he'd be roasted by a judge. DH agreed to give it a chance. SS starts attending tonight and will attend two-three times a week.

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Submitted by SMforever on Wed, 03/08/2017 - 10:12am

Haha dogs are just people who speak a different language. Good for pooch for sensing the treachery, and having your back.

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Submitted by Let_therebepeace on Wed, 03/08/2017 - 10:46am

My dog didn't break the skin on BM. Besides, she was "attacking" DH in our opinion. So, let her attempt that non-sense...we have the financial means to hire an attorney to fight that battle. 3lbs vs 300lbs I don't think it's a tough case to crack Blum 3

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Submitted by Killingmeslowly on Wed, 03/08/2017 - 2:24pm

OMG! :jawdrop: I have a picture in my head of your little Pin on BM's back....HAHAHAHAHA!!!!! Too funny! Smile

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Submitted by Killingmeslowly on Wed, 03/08/2017 - 2:24pm

OMG! :jawdrop: I have a picture in my head of your little Pin on BM's back....HAHAHAHAHA!!!!! Too funny! Smile

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Submitted by ForArtsSake on Wed, 03/08/2017 - 2:32pm

Hope the counseling helps out with SS's behavioral issues. Sometimes all it takes is one good threat of serious charges for a kid to get their act together. It's unfortunate it gets that far, but some people need that sort of wake up call.

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Submitted by Let_therebepeace on Wed, 03/08/2017 - 6:46pm

I hope so. DH & BM haven't been on board with SS and the issues until recently. I am hoping this is an eye opener for everyone. I've been dealing with this basically alone (only support has been from school teachers and administration) for nearly 9 years. Recently both DH & BM have seen a side of SS that he had never shown them. I guess after years of getting away with it, he felt like he would never get in trouble. There have been cycles that DH would be on board, so I am worried this may be another one of those times, but hopefully with the severity of the recent actions DH will stay on board and remain consistent. Maybe the pastor can even help DH and BM with counseling.