It's Mid DH's Summer Visitation Time and SD Has Yet To Be Seen
SOOOOOO, it's not TOTALLY SD's fault... we've been battling covid here... but still...
DH cought covid in June, his quarantine was ove BEFORE SD's was supposed to come, but she happened to text and ask if she can come over July 5th, after Independence Day, that way she wont catch covid from DH even though he was testing negative before july even was here (we know it's REALLY because she wants to spend it with her mom, but she will never ADMIT that, she'd just rather lie). THEN DD18 got covid from work, so DH called SD and told her that and we extended her to not coming for another week. Well, I cought covid from DD because I was taking care of her, and apparently even though I was taking precautions I cought it. But NOW that everyone is done and quarantine is over, SD has to take her driving test and she has a college course final (she took a college course over the first half of summer), and she could do BOTH of these while still coming to visitation, but she is using them as an excuse to not come to visitation, and at this point, DH couldn't care less. He's done with SD's lies and manipulation and couldn't care less that the only other time he's seen her is that one weekend (half day on saturday and half day on sunday) after our cruise. so he's going to see her for 2 weeks of july (by the time she actually comes) and probably wont come on weekends after that.
Am I sad, disappointed, bummed out that she's not here? not at all.
Yeah sometime when there is a
Yeah sometime when there is a reason or excuse they can't come I'm like "Oh... No..."
Me too, sooooo much less
Me too, sooooo much less drama without her, DH agrees too, which is sad, but total karma
Yeah.. IDK.. I don't think it
Yeah.. IDK.. I don't think it's unusual for a teen to prefer or feel like one place is more "home" than the other.. and knew there were some fun plans over the 4th she didn't want to miss. And.. giving it a few extra days to make sure covid cleared (which it boomaranged apparently..lol).. doesn't seem super significant.. and if she's like me.. she may have her study area set up to her liking at her mom's.. and while she "could" do work at your place.. perhaps it's not as quiet or private.. or whatever that she feels it wouldnt be conducive?
In the end.. you get an extended break. Hope everyone is on the mend!
We're all great, i was well
We're all great, i was well by Friday (which was when my quarantine was over as well
Also, BM takes every
Also, BM takes every opportunity to turn Sd17 against DH, gone as far as saying that DH tired to push her down a flight of stairs while she was pregnant (BM lies about everything so the time, SD comes over so the time saying BM said this and BM said that, when i know is a lie because i was THERE, and DH has never shown me anyone to believe he's ever been physical in that manner) . Constantly telling DH (in front of sd) that he's detrimental to sd's mental health... so yea, if someone is saying things like that to me about my father growing up, i wouldn't want to see my father very often either.
My SS didn’t struggle with the where is home thing too much.
Though he did go through the pre and post visitation brooding and the occasional guilt manipulation crap they pulled would surface occasionally. Home was home, SpermLand was SpermLand. An occasional lake trip to a borrowed time share that they eventually did purchase was the highlight of an intermittent summer SpermClan visitation.
The occasional guilt stuff was when SS would expostulate on how unfair it was that he/we had nice things and took nice vacations and his three younger also out of wedlock Spermidiot spawned half sibs by to other baby mamas didn't. Always predicated by manipulation by SoermGrandHag.
Nothing that a brief review of his mom and I working on degrees for years, working professional careers, and correlation of those efforts to income and the differences between home and SpermLand didn't set to rights.
We never allowed SS to not go on visitation though the SpermCan refused many of their visitations over the 16 years of the CO. He knew where he was wanted and where he was at best merely tolerated. He had stability and support IRL but not during SpermLand visitation trauma. I have no doubt that he has some lingering emotional trauma issues from his visitation childhood. The yanking and banking between how and there, the manipulation and guilt he was loaded up with during visitations, the more exacting standards of behavior and performance he was held to at home compared not understanding why he was subjected to the manipulation and guilt when he was there then being chewed out for doing what his three younger sibs were doing while they ran amok.
When it arrises, it still torques my jaw that he had to experience any of that. He is an outstanding man.