Its already over??
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So, DH's crazy ex meets a guy and gets engaged 3 months later.
11 months later they marry (on Halloween 07), BB moves into her new DH's house (physically moves in but does not move any of her belongings in). 2 weeks later they are seperate and one week later (3 weeks into the 'marriage') they are divorcing!
I can't say I'm surprised, but what the hell?
My 7-year-old SD says she is not allowed to ask her mommy any questions about what is going on. My SD told DH that she wants to live with us and she wants me to be her "real" mommy.
I feel so badly for those kids. They will forever be in limbo with their BM. She is the most unstable person I have ever seen!
Those poor kids...
That is terrible. Too bad your SD is not a little older, or she may have a say in where she wants to live. It does sound unstable on the part of her BM. Are you guys seriously considering custody? If so, maybe you would have a shot with this kind of sudden unheaval in the child's life. Otherwise, doesn't it suck that we have no say in what BM does to hurt her own children, yet BM always puts her two cents in when it comes to our households and our lives? That is the case with us anyway.
Let us know how it goes. Best of luck!
I agree Cruella,
I think my SD deserves some sort of explaination. Like you said Cruella, she doesn't have to go into details or anything but to say absoulutely NOTHING at all?? and to tell SD not to ask her any questions?? Its just too weird.
BB forced this guy on my skids and told them to call him "dad".
DH and I both knew that this 'relationship' wouldn't last longer than a year tops, but we certainly didn't expect it to end after 2 weeks of marriage.
Now BB has began flirting with my DH at the exchanges. I know it shouldn't bother me, but it does.
I can't stand the thought of her skanky-ass lingering around at the exchanges trying to engage my DH in conversation.
We are seeking custody for other reasons as well and this newest stunt just adds to our long list of reasons why BB is not stable. We think that our chances are pretty good, but we're still not getting our hopes up because you just never know.
I think it will help you....
that BM creates quick change in her daughter's life with no explanation. A reasonable judge is going to see that as unhealthy for her. But like you said, you do never know, and I don't blame you for not getting your hopes up. We are on our way to court too, and ditto here.
Keep us posted.
Where I live the courts
Where I live the courts appoint an attorney for the kids. Thats what happened in my custody issue after months of mediation and him still fighting. The best advice I have is be very cautious in how you come across in court. Dont bad mouth the other parent. Even if every bone in your body tells you to. Present the facts without blame, use the situations. The courts look at what kind of morals and home life and sacrifices you are willing to make for your children. At least that was my case. And I ended up with full placement with the Judge leaving all visitation up to my son. I went in discussing my childs life. What we do, and honestly the amount of involvement and effort his BD made to spend time with him. I even stated it wasn't about my feelings towards my ex, it is about what is best for our son.