Income Deduction Order. Will BM be notified if DH switches jobs?
Hello everyone! I have posted on here a few times about the crazy BM and everything she has put my DH through over the past 4 years regarding SD7. I deleted my blogs because I read a few posts from people saying to be careful about what you write on here,but I will probably post new ones again in the next day or two.
BM is a money hungry narcissist that feels BD's should pay her bills and stay out of the the children's lives so that her second and third husbands could fill that role until they dump her like they usually do. In both of her divorces she called social services on the men claiming that they were abusive, my husband included. She has filed for restraining orders on three different people in the past 4 years, my DH, second DH and the girlfriend of one of the children she had out of wedlock while still married to my hubby.
Trust me, I'm not just a jealous or bitter step mom, this woman is truly a life ruining soul stealer, and she has terrorized pretty much anyone that wants to be a part of her children's lives. She rents a 2500 square foot house that is funded by the fathers of her children, and still complains that she needs more money from each of them. Instead of buying a modest home to allow herself more money for her children, she is more concerned with a $1500 a month rent fee that she will never get back, just to appear wealthy when she is not. She insisted on income deduction orders from both of the fathers so that she could receive her money deposited into her account on every pay period.
My question is, will she be notified if my hubby switches jobs? He has worked very hard to finish college and is currently looking for a career change. She already takes what I feel is a reasonable amount of child support for him, but has threatened to take him back to court to up the amount and get back support every time he gets a raise. Is this possible, and will she know when he does switch companies? I just want to know what we should be prepared for financially. I am ready to have my own children and not sure we will be able to afford it if she spends the next 11 years pursuing more money from him at every opportunity.
Second paragraph where it
Second paragraph where it says "the girlfriend of one of the children" is the girlfriend of one of the fathers obviously.
Usually an income deduction
Usually an income deduction order has a paragraph regarding updating the disbursement unit and the BM when a job changes. I'll tell you from experience, if you fail to do this and the BM gets wind of it, she can file a motion for fraud upon the court and a motion to modify support and get the increase money from the time your husband knew or should have known that his employment changed and his salary increased at least 15% from the amount that was already sworn to in his financial affidavit. Then, not only will she get the back child support, she can get interest on top of it and her attorney's fees. It will be way more costly to your DH if he doesn't comply with the IDO.
She has to follow up and file a motion to modify in order to get the increase, if it is applicable. If she doesn't, then he will not owe any back child support.
He has every intention of
He has every intention of notifying his new employer immediately to continue to follow the terms of the income deduction order and have the money taken out of his payroll. I was just wondering if she would be notified immediately that he had changed jobs, even if he did contact whoever he needed to regarding CS before her changed companies. He has never missed a payment in 4 years and doesn't plan on it. Thank you for answering my question, I appreciate any input from people that have gone through this before. He will definitely notify the disbursement unit before any change takes place, and I guess the best thing to do would be to contact his lawyer to make sure of the exact steps that he needs to take. We definitely don't want any fraud charges or any more drama than we already have to deal with!
I guess we'll just have to
I guess we'll just have to deal with it then, because I know she will always want more money. It's not that we don't want to pay a fair amount of CS, I just couldn't see viewing it as legitimate income like she does. We already live solely on my income. His paycheck was $56 last week after the income deduction order, that is almost more depressing than not getting a paycheck at all! We drive 600 miles every other weekend to see her, and he has to deal with constant harassment about him not doing enough for SD or paying enough CS. I want this child to have every possible thing that we could give to provide for her, it's just sad that the money from both of this woman's children obviously go to her lavish lifestyle, including unnecessary housing, breast implants, tummy tuck, hair extensions, and God knows what else. I thought it was supposed to be CHILD support.
In TX one party HAS to notify
In TX one party HAS to notify the other when the relocate or change jobs. You should check your CO and see what it says. Also if he makes more money in the new job then cs will go up since it's based on a percentage. Check your state guidelines. Here, eiher party can request a modification if there has been a 15% change (decrease or increase) in income. So, yeah, bm could change cs each time he gets a raise, depending on the raise. Also here, bm can file a modification every three years...which she does. With cs, I have learned to just expect the worst then you can't be disappointed.
Your very right, I just learn
Your very right, I just learn to not expect the best. This BM has dollar signs for eyes, hopefully one day we will at least have enough so that my DH and I can have children together.
That's exactly what I said
That's exactly what I said when I first learned of the income deduction order, that it shouldn't be any of her business as long as she was getting her child support. I would never be with a man that didn't support his child, but damn it's hard planning my own family when the first wife is just waiting to pounce on anything extra we might ever have!