I MARRIED MY HUSBAND, NOT THE SKIDS
In a nutshell....I married my husband because I fell in love with him, not so easy to fall in love with the skids...they have too much of the BM in them to to that....I disengage when they are here 12 days a month....I actually think my DH at times, wish they were not here either...so needy and whiny the whole time they are here! I am soooooooooo tired of the BM sending emails of what goes on here and what she thinks he should be doing with the skids when its his time with them. The only way she knows anything is if the skids go home and tell BM what goes on in our home..ex: We let them watch the back room tv at night so I go into our bedroom to watch tv and my DH will join me being that it is bedtime or when DH is on 11 to 7 shift he might nap on the couch before work..again at their bedtime....BM actually said....."they are usually alone or you are in bed with your wife or sleeping on the couch"!...talk about pissed off!!
He blames the BM that she "physically" gets info out of them, but that is far from the truth...I have heard first hand how the 8skid talks to the BM..I would put my foot up her you know what!! She did that to me one too many times, and now I can not stand to be around her...both skids love an argument or love to smart mouth back....my three kids have never disrespected me like that ever and I will not tolerate it from them. DH makes them so innocent, but they are just as manipulative as their mother...the apple does not fall far from the tree!
Sd told me today that bm said
Sd told me today that bm said my bd 11 wasn't allowed to give her baths. I told sd4 that's not mommys call, she doesn't live in our house so she doesn't get to make the rules. She is only allowed to make the rules at her own house (not that there is any!!).
O believe me, we do NOT take
O believe me, we do NOT take the bait from BM! But the skids know exactly how to get under their mother's skin by telling her things...they like to see her get her panties in a bunch! As soon as they reach the car when BM picks them up, the SD8 starts with her yelling and smart mouth to her...she said one day, "I do not want you to be my mom anymore, I have another mom and I want to live with her....well, I do not engage with them with DH whatsoever, which tells me she loves to get her mother in a tether! BM made sure she let DH know she said that..told him that "their daughter is a rude little girl"...well something new you are not telling me! The 12ss argues with BM like they are married! They both need a foot up their butts!! But then I hear DH what a horrible mother she is and how she is always yelling...uh excuse me, but the love it just as much!! They come into my home and never say Hello to me or my other kids 23 and 16. When they leave they never say good bye....gets under my skin and one day the sd8 came, never acknowledged me, finally when she was walking down the steps, she says, Daddy I am going to Kylies...I said, Hello Taylor...I all I got from two rooms away was a meek...HI...I looked at my DH and he did not say one word!! So disrespectful! O and it is always,
"Where is my Dad?"..OMG...they are his shadow...he can not even go to the bathroom without them needing to know where he is...and please do not say it is an abandonment issue...they are here 14 days a month, so they see "Daddy" often.
Its been a peaceful two weeks and they will be her tomorrow for three days...UGH! Where is my wine!