I wasn't on Steptalk for a while (a solid year) because I was stepkid free. My divorce was final in July and things were good! I stupidly let my ex back for about six months because he had been sober. My conditions were that he see the skids outside of my home and that I have no involvement with that end of things. Oh yeah, and that he stay sober and pay his half of the bills.

Lets just say that as soon as he was back and I was enabling him by paying my mortgage on time so he didn't have to worry about making his rent by the 1st (he was paying me, but when he felt like it), he went right back to drinking so he is leaving for good May 1. I told him not to contact me in any way. We are through.

Anyways, I just have to vent about his brat - after BM punched the kid in the face for complaining about her 18 year old boyfriend (her daughter's friend that she grew up with), my ex called CPS and opened a case. After years of calling me a c##t, saying horrible things to me and about me in public forums, and just flat being a little jerk, ex's 14 year old spawn is enraged that he can't come to my home this weekend. Mind you, I did nothing but drive them around, do almost all the pickups and dropoffs, take them shopping and on vacations. I went wayyyyyy above and beyond and never will again. But if I am so horrible why the F would you want to come stay in my home? And then tell your dad that "I don't know my place in his relationship with his kids". I have NO place and don't want one. What he is pissed about is that I won't drive an hour each way anymore to pick him up because BM is a fat lazy pig and his dad doesn't have a drivers license, bring him to my nice home, pick up after him all weekend, buy him his favorite food, and let him treat my 5 year old like dirt while he camps on my couch for 48 hours watching inappropriate TV shows, eating and using filthy language to describe whatever adult he is currently mad at. And if I don't do that, then I don't know "my place" and I am keeping him from his dad. I told the ex that he could take a bus and bring his kid to a movie or borrow his friends cabin for the weekend, but like hell is that kid coming over here. And then I passed the ex some more packing boxes.

I guess the thing that blows me away the most is that when I was a kid, I had alot of family issues as well. But when I really felt like someone was a bad person or had done something really awful, I wanted nothing to do with them. I wouldn't accept help from them, I didn't ask for anything, and I would send gifts back unopened. These kids have picked up this attitude that comes straight from their BM. Its an "F you, now do me a favor" type of entitlement that I don't think is going to work well in the real world. I know I am out of it and it doesn't matter, just needed to vent. The whole "don't know my place" comment after all I have done for them made me want to punch something.