I think you made a big mistake. If bm and her dh get divorced over this she'll just have more time to make your life a nightmare. She'll just do it more often.

Hello Kettle? This is Pot.....You're black.

You are no better than bm. Probably worse. People like you disgust me.

What the FUCK? What are you, twelve years old? Who does this to another human? I don't care HOW much I have disliked BM, or HOW wrong she has done DH.... that is a line that just isn't crossed.

You.need.help.

ETA: Sorry about the language, but seriously, what the fuck?

Wow.. why are you so consumed with the drama?

I mean seriously.. that is sick.

You are messing with a persons life just to be wicked.. ever heard of Kharma? Uh, yea.. eventually she would have gotten hers.. but now.. you turned the tide and Kharma is gonna come after your ass with a vengeance.. good luck with that.

Oh, and if DH doesn't know about this.. you bet your butt he will.. this will all surface and come back to haunt you.. people get pissed and ever the darkest secrets get spilled.. from even the best of friends..

Ok, I think this is really funny. Fucked up? YES, but funny. Immature? Absolutely. Wrong? YES. However, funny non the less. These crazy ass BMs make any sane woman stoop to levels that none of us ever dream of stooping to. I am constantly daydreaming of how I could bring serious shit down in BMs life but of course, I just daydream. I don't know if I'd actually GO FOR IT. If she has any type of brain cells she'll do her own investigating and find out the BF isn't cheating and she'll figure out it was a prank. She'll get over it.

You're conducting your life around BM. She's coming out on top here.

Well looks like you decided to start a shit show, I hope it will be worth it. I feel bad for your step children, they clearly are lacking any type of adult presence in their lives. What I don't get is the glee that seems to radiate off your blog because of what you did. You screwed someone else's relationship up and you aren't even feeling bad about it.

When BM got evicted, DF told her that he would take skid, but she wasn't having that.

So, where is BM and the kid living?

I guess I am just amused that so many of the old timers are even responding to this blog. I mean really? She has been a member for an hour. Does none of this ring any bells for any of you?? lol

TheMean1,

I'm going to quote lesson 1 from my Sun Tzu Blogs.

"When you are about to engage in War, first measure the cost".

Let's leave aside the fact of whether or not what you did is right or wrong....What if BM has call display? What if she finds out that the person that called her was your sister? Would you have been ready for the blowback? Is your DF involved in this prank?

Never EVER engage in a battle with an ex if the potential for loss is great and the potential loss to you and your DF could be significant here. I am not trying to lecture you or anything, but basking in one moment of glory may not be worth the windfall you'll face should the truth be discovered. This woman you despise so much may come seeking revenge. I hope you are ready to deal with the consequences.

I don't really think this story/poster/post is real. I suspect there's some trickery at play.

It is people like you who perpetuate the stereotype of the "Evil Stepmom" and you aren't even technically a SM yet!

Report people who are doing wrong. Great! Lying or having someone else lie just to make your enemy's life hell...makes you no better than her.

Do any of you ladies doubt that given the opportunity, all the BMs in OUR lives wouldn't do something this vicious to any of us? My own SIL would have her co-worker calling me at work to tell me that my DH was sticking it in BM. She didn't get quite the reaction she was hoping for because I'd always respond with "Wow, really? That's too bad, that she is now his mistress. Way to degrade herself! You should give her some advice on pride and self esteem."
I think these women really push buttons that we aren't even aware that we have and everyone responds differently. Right now this poster is feeling that this is the only way she can cause some pain on someone who clearly has caused HER much pain. Tit for Tat, maybe not the best approach, but I mean, come on. It's what women are known for. CATTINESS!

I won't sit here and try to understand or sympathize with a person that is a diabolical liar..

The BM in my life is a major piece of shit.. causes soooo many problems.. lies to her kids to perpetuate drama.. She has even done some of the shit you claim to have done - prepaid cell phones so she can send malicious lies via text, fake email accounts, having people call and "pretend to know something" about me or DH to start drama..

Yet, I won't do anything to her.. why? Because she is ultimately the mother of my stepsons.. and even though I hate her, and her kids annoy the shit out of me and make my life a living hell most days, I love my husband - and these are also his kids..

Hurting their mom = hurting the kids. Why? Because the kids love their BM.. doesn't matter if she is a piece of shit or not, they love her.. when they get older, that may change, but for now, she is mom and if she is stressed or hurting and they know it, they feel it too..

And if the kids hurt and are stressed it affects my DH and ultimately our home..

It's all tied together and eventually what this crazy psycho did will all come back around and smack her right in the face.. and I hope it does with a vengeance.

Lady.. you need help. Anyone that goes through this much trouble to create drama for someone who apparently already has a life in the shitter is just a whack-a-doo..

My bm with my first dh used to try and set up all sorts of plots like this. She was so foolish because she'd tell all sorts of people prior that she was going to do it. Then she'd call dh and try to arrange a one on one meeting. He'd simply confront her that he knew what she was up to because 12 people had already called and told him what she had planned. He told him it was a wasted effort anyway as I'd simply never believe her.

If someone randomly called me today telling me they were having an affair with dh-I wouldn't flip my lid. I would find dh and go talk to him about it. Unless the caller could provide some really compelling evidence in about 30 seconds I'd probably be done with the whole call and situation by then.

I don't think you thought this through.....you do realize that by causing her to lose her subsidized housing, she will come after your household for more c.s. money??? Granted, she should not have had a felon living in her child's home, but it wasn't your place to turn her in if you didn't have your skid's best interest at heart; you did it to be mean. This could come back to bite you in the face! Did it work? Has she gotten a job?

If this guy is so bad, you should call CPS on bm.

Wow.....that's a first. A BM with a job. Most of them expect the ex husband to support their entire household forever.

I'm surprised by the comments you have gotten! I actually laughed out loud while I was reading your post. If ever I have the opportunity to make BM's life hell the way she has attempted to do to us, you bet your ass I am going to take it! Good for you! She got what she deserved.

Not cool.Have no other words.

Wow.

Ok, reporting for welfare fraud I will actually applaud you for. Thanks for saving my tax dollars.

The other?
Uncalled for. Unnecessary. Childish.
I do not care what problems BM may have caused you. There is no reason to lie and intentionally incite discord within her relationship/ household. You just created a theater of hellish emotional pain for your skids.

Upset Step dad gets thrown out
Listening to mom and step dad argue as the man attempts to prove himself innocent.
having to move again due to mom being unable to afford to live @ current location without step dad income.
Seeing their mother emotionally upset/devestated- that seriously screws with a kids head.

I hope Karma bites you and your sister hard on the ass.

Ok.

I understand wanting revenge and i'm sure everyone understands why too, BUT!

You should have done it the right way, like reporting her! you did good there not only saved tax payers money, but you gave her the middle finger while laughing your ass off. You should have done the same this time instead of something untrue and very childish, you've stooped to her level.

Also you need to think, you may think DF wont find out but what if he does? what if skids find out? DF may partly understand and forgive but Skids wont! and what you gonna say to them? "because your mums a bitch!" that's their mum and they will not look at things like that and in turn they will make YOUR life hell!! and BM will definitely encourage it and will get revenge through her kids, which could in turn affect DF who will get angry with you because of it and BOOM! your life is even more complicated and miserable and all of it will be your own fault.

I think you shouldn't have done what you did and i think in time you may regret it but i understand it completely, i would love to see my BM suffer like she's done to me!

Ok I am sitting on the fence on this one. What you did was very wrong (and your sister too). No matter how bad the BM is, no one deserves to be treated like that. Please take time to realize how crazy you sound and that what you did was crazy mean stuff. Clearly with the ongoing drama and mean BM, your own sense of what is right and wrong has been eroded. Now you cannot see the wood for the trees as the step-insanity has infected you. Use this as a valuable life lesson to get some therapy for YOU, to help you to regain your self worth, your peace in life and rise above all of this.

OMG. I read this and I immediately fantasized about doing this to my dh's ex. But I would never ever do such a thing. I think that it would be crossing a line that I myself live by and I do think that when you do such a thing you are creating an enemy for life, but most importantly, you might trigger a dangerous reaction coming back at you. My dh's ex is ruthless, and to lash out at her would likely be ensuring a world of pain for myself. I prefer to keep them away and live my life in peace.

I admit, My BM is more than a PITA, and well shes horrid, accused me of all sorst of things and there are days I wish bad things on her - and sure, I will taunt her passively etc - but I woudl NEVER openely directly contact her/her family and do anything like this. Being so open and in your face is just as bad as her.

This has GOT to be a troll

Wow. Ok, the Section 8 part I find absolutely funny and justified. Hard working people's taxes paid for her rent. People who abuse the system should be reported on. Get a job! Get three jobs!

The other stuff.... well.. it's mean. And funny. Yes, I find it funny. ::sigh::

Wow, I can't even answer this one.

Reporting her Section 8 fraud is absolutely commendable. Thanks for doing that.

The fake mistress thing, just cost you your own character and credibility. I understand not calling her to come clean. I am not sure I would come clean either if I had done this. However, I would have never done that in the first place.

As you can see from the majority of responses, you are not getting much traction in gaining support for your actions on this.

I completely understand and admire people who hold the idiot blended family opposition accountable for their toothless moron behavior. In fact I made bareing idiot SpermClan ass a sport for the 16+ years that my SS's Custody/Visitation/Support CO was in effect. I was very good at that sport and I truly enjoyed it in a sad slow motion oncoming train wreck sort of way.

We stuck to the facts of their behavior, we kept the CO, the supplemental county rules and state rules and regulations rolled tightly at hand and we smacked the crap out of the SpermIdiot and SpermClan any time they even thought about deviating from the CO. We took full advantage of their ignorance of the CO, the supplemental rules and the state regulations. If they were getting upity we would shut them down and tell them that they might want to read the CO or other governing documents without referring to a specific line on the rule books. It was not our responsibility to inform them of specifics. It was our job to protect our son's (My SS's) best interests. But we did not fabricate untruths.

I suggest that you do a personal reset, get very knowledgable on your CO and the administrative rules for all of BM's entitlment programs and make her feel the pain of her idiocy. Stick to the facts and use them to your full advantage. But, don't stoop to her level and jeopardize your own character.

IMHO of course.