Last night at dinner it was me, my 9 yr olds, and our 8 month old. My kids were acting up, getting up from their chairs and telling each other gross poop jokes and laughing too loud. It was annoying. H said when SD does the same thing I get real mad. I said it's because with them I know I have the option to say whatever I want, whenever I want and no one will accuse me of not liking them, of picking on them. But when I know I can't ever say anything, it builds resentment. Then he stopped talking about it. He always has these little comments towards me about his daughter. When they were married and she was a baby her mother would go out more nights than not. He got tired of being home stuck with the baby so he dropped her off at her grandmothers, his mother in law. So both went out separately more nights than not. She was with a full-time sitter during the day from age 3 months or so and the going out at night more often then not and grandma watching her. Then from a year old to K full-time daycare with more evening than not with grandma. When I met her at four years old to now 10 years old, I would estimate that she spends 10 waking hours a week max with her mother, MAX on the best week. Mom has full custody. BM has a year and a half old, she took a job when that baby was none months old that requires travel, being away from home 1 week out of every 6-8 weeks. That is the woman he married, had a baby with. He admitted she had a 5 yr old when they met and that child was spending endless days with her grandmother. She had full custody of that child, and grandmother had her an easy 5 days out of 7. He said at first he liked it, but when the honeymoon phase wore off he would say shouldn't we go get her. BM would say she's