Hello all,
I have been lurking for awhile now, but have never posted. I have done a search on this issue and read many things and am glad to know I am not alone. First a little about myself. I am the bio mother of 3 and sm of 3 for a total of 6! I have been with my H for 2 years now.

Here is my frustration/anger issue now. My DH family drives me crazy. His mother will have nothing to do with me or my children. I am not allowed to bring my children to her house and she wont come to ours. My DH stands by me and now will not go to her house because we are not ALL welcome. What kills me is she pays the bio-mom $100 to bring the kids to see her! This of course was used against us in court. My DH must be a dead beat because even his own mother supports his ex. She gets $980 a month in CS and makes way more $ than we do (we are in the process of CS modification WHAT A NIGHTMARE)

She wants nothing to do with my kids because she says she thinks his kids should have a place to go that's all their own, that they shouldn't have to share their grandparents.

My DH told her how my mother has taken all the children in and cares for them all the same. It doesn't matter to her. She says she stands behind her values! HER VALUES? She is on her THIRD marriage and has two step-children of her own. Of course they are grown now, but her family loved those girls like they were hers. I just can't figure this out. I have done nothing to her, she has no reason to act this way. I have only been to her home twice and each time was treated with ice cold shoulders and hardly spoken to the entire time. It wouldn't bother me so much except the kids think its US who wont see them.

The holidays are coming up and we have invited her for Thanksgiving. She wont come however, I just learned she will be in town and having dinner with BM. BM has a BF who has 2 kids that she takes to her home.

I know I came second, that BM was first; however, she wouldn't have anything to do with BM when they were married but they are now best friends.

DH is fine with this and says it's just the way his mother is and he could careless if he ever talks to her again. I am having a hard time with it because the kids come over and tell everyone what fun they had with Mom and the grandparents. I guess I should just ignore it and let the two cats have each other, but it just really pisses me off!