New member here (hi) Ive been with my current partner for 3 years and I have 4 step kids (13SD, 11SD, 9SS & 5 SD). When my partners ex just flat out threw him out for no reason he agreed to give her everything in hopes they could reconcile. They signed a child support agreement (not through the courts but during seperation mediation so it was a private agreement) that stipulates that he pay our countries required CS $980 per month, he got the kids 10 nights a month, has to pay for 100% of all dental, schooling & activity costs, be the one who drives the kids to all activities (that fell on days he didnt have them) plus he was paying off a shit load of debt his greedy ex wife racked up in the 6 months prior to her kicking him out. As she has never worked a day in her life this was all acquired in her ex husbands name. A car lease with fuel card and all on road support ($1400 a month, her credit card debt ($500 a month) her flexirent debt for a big tv and dslr camera ($450 a month) thay she kept all of these, so he was shelling out more than 75% of his wage to her and her debts. He got nothing as she kept EVERYTHING. We both had enough of her demands so I worked my ass off for a year working two jobs to pay for a lawyer. 12 months and $12000 later the new agreement stipulates that she had a choice in either giving us back the car (that was in my partners name) and she gets $980 a month in child support and half the cost paid in the kids dental needs (no more extra cash for school fees, activities, extras etc or she keeps the car as her child support (which is $400 more than what he was required to pay) and half of the kids dental with no extra bonus money for other things. Her lawyer fought for both but it was thrown out, even our lawyer agreed he was paying her way, way too much. So she chose the car. The judge signed the papers back in january, thank goodness cause I was so f##king fed up working two jobs to keep the bills paid, food on the table and pay the lawyer. I agreed to my other half I would front up the money for the lawyer and court costs (as an interest free loan to be paid back when he was outta paying off her debts) ONLY if he gave her what she was entitled too by CS, no extras and handing her cash on her every demand when she cries and calls him a deadbeat. Recently I found out that she is sending him bills of $2700 all up for extra costs for the kids. Lately he has had no money to chip in for his share of the bills etc (I have not seen him buy anything big for the kids here or take them anywhere or bought himself anything) and im f##king furious that he caved in and gave her what she wanted. Now his ex belongs in the loony bin (I could be here all week describing the hell she has put myself, my partner and the kids through) the last thing she did was fabricate rape and assult claims on my partner when she lost out on her demands in court. The bottom line is im over it, im done working my ass off (my doctor wants me to slow things down cause im approaching burnout and other illness problems). I didnt spent 12k for her to get her entitled ass pampered with her demands. Im this close on telling my partner pack your bag with your small amount of belongings and get the F##K outta my house cause I will never see a cent of that lawyer money paid back cause he is still giving the ex everything. Im literally writing this while im getting a bag ready for him.