Does this sound sketchy?
DH and I have been together for a few years now. In the beginning BM spread rumors about me, called me everything in the book, threatened to come to the hospital when my (our) baby was born and completely ruined the experience for me, she's still never had a nice word to say about me despite all of the years of going over and above for her kids. Mostly we just ignore eachother now. DH decided to take the youngest of his/BMs kids to a concert, and recently BM thought to invite herself to it too. For the record, I was never invited or asked to go just "I'm taking the kid to this in a couple of weeks". Which I let it go knowing the kids need one on one time sometime. So I'll be at home watching our kids. I feel like DH has made every excuse in the book for her to go with him, which I don't understand if she wanted to take their kid they litteraly have the same type of event going on in the same place every month, there's zero reason for her to invite herself along for this one. And roles reversed, we would have fought for days if I ever suggested going somewhere with an ex-BD who treated him the way she has treated me (and him). To me this along with a few other things (like longer pickups/dropoffs because they were "talking") is getting really sketchy, and I'm wondering if I should bail.
Follow your gut. (((HUGS)))
Follow your gut.
(((HUGS)))
I'd tell him that if she went
I'd tell him that if she went to the concert with them, he'd come home to an empty house and divorce papers.
His call...
Yep...
None of this is right especially with her toxic behaviors of the past. Time for your DH to come clean...those longer pickups would be addressed. If it "looks" wrong, then it's wrong. As for the date night...that would be my "stick a fork in me, I'm done" moment.
How dare he? Seriously!
How dare he? Seriously!
when she declared war by being so nasty to you he needed to pick a side. If he's not going to be there defending you, making you and your baby feel safe and loved wtf?
Why does she have the power to break up your child's family? I'd be telling him some hard truths and how he responds would determine my next move. I would've be afraid to go in hard here because if he is sorry it will be turned around ASAP. If he's not, your saving yourself a lifetime of misery.
Why did he marry you and have a child to you if he wasn't going to allow the ex to weasel her way in?
Even the way he told you about the concert , not on.
Tell him to step up and be a man, protect and care for the family he has, not the one he lost years ago.
When you confront him and give an ultimatum
And he gives the excuse "but its for the kids" thats a warning sign.
there is no need to spend time or try being civil with a high conflict absuive narc yet alone catch up and chat. He ignores her presence and attends events and goes straight home
i will say though, my husband who at times is still a guilty disney dad who says his 3 kids are exact replicas of bio mum, wants me and our 2 kids at meetups with skids because he needed a distraction from their appalling behaviour. Always ranting about biomum and stepdad in every conversation like they were relevant to us.
i told hubby to man up and address this as i and our 2 young kids were not gonna torture ourself with their presence.
Yes, sketchy. There is no
Yes, sketchy. There is no reason for them to go to a concert together and leave you at home, kid or no kid.
Umm. No. End of a complete discussion.
And yes, totally sketchy.
Sounds incredibly sketchy
Sounds incredibly sketchy
I agree with everyone else.
I agree with everyone else. This doesn't sound on the up and up.
HUN
BTDT...I divorced his sketchy ass.
Yep he started having BM with him and his mini wife DD for outings. The last straw he took snotfaced SD for her Bday dinner and BM tagged along. I was NOT invited. I told him we were done if this happened. He just assumed Id get over it like all the other times.
NOPE, but I did get over him though.
You will find peace when you have peace surrounding you. FOLLOW YOUR GUT!