Dirty attention seeking SL@G of a step daugter 13yrs old
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She is 13 a 2nd yr at secondary school and she announces (in front of my 9y old girl) that she doesn't know if she has had sex or not?... because she was too drunk to know!!
Im sorry but when I had sex I knew! This leads me to think she is obviously not a virgin!
What the hell is she doing drinking?
She then claimed she had a positive result on a pregnancy test, me and her father asked her mother who said she was a liar.
Its not the first time she has lied, she often lies. Im beginning to hate the little skid!
She is going round to my partner/her fathers Ex girlfriends house and molly mix.
Not only that but she is physically inappropriate with him to a point that it flaming well disgusts me. ie talking about periods and the pill she is on, she also gives him her dirty sanitary towel to bin for her.. then talks about that she is pregnant (lies) and that she don't know if she has had sex.
she drapes herself all over him and walks hand in hand (interlocking like lovers) in public... She dresses inappropriately too she loos like a dirty slut, shorts on up to her arse her tits all out for all too see.. She also looks about 17 her dad is 33 but looks about 27 and when they walk hand in hand this way it disgusts me and also passers by.. but he and she are oblivious to this..
She is a promiscuous fast cat that is doing and saying all in her power to break up me and her father.. its like she wants to be his only girl.. and the gut feeling I get when I see her walking hand in hand with her father in this manner is that in her warped mind she is imagining they are bf and gf.. as that is how it looks...
She even causes divisions on family days out by emotionally manipulating her father and saying I want to spend time with you.. and its like two separate familys are out.. I hate the dirty little cow for all her doings and the impact she is having on my 9 yr old child and my relationship ARGGGGGHHHHHHH FFS
And what is her father doing
And what is her father doing to parent her?
Nothing... although he says
Nothing... although he says he is furious with her actions/behaviour... she is even smoking... she disgusts me with her behaviour and im a young mum, so should understand this... I was 17 when I had my son who's 14 now
sounds like she is desparate
sounds like she is desparate for attention and could use some therapy before she actually does get preggers or worse. Are either bio parent cognizant of her actions? Take pictures or vids of her and dad together, show them to him alongside images of more appropriate father/daughters relating to each other, maybe if he sees them he'll recognize that there is an issue.
Or show them to him ina pub and ask people to guess the relationship.
If I do take a pic would he
If I do take a pic would he not think im trying to affect his and her relationship as.. the spiteful cow has made out to him that I push her out and that she can never get near to her father coz im always kissing/cuddling him... this is not the case I have 3 children to deal with.. also I spend loads of money/time with her..
im not a stupid woman im on a lv 4 diploma in counselling so I understand family dynamics/relations but this is just wrong!
I have thought about pointing out the funny looks he is getting off the public/before someone just hits him in assumption (that's the town we live in)
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Sounds like she's saying
Sounds like she's saying things for effect. And she's working it. Went thru similar with ysd at 15 and step grand daughter14. They would be overly open with info and try to say the most shocking things especially in restaurants.
The SD, in a loud voice at a restaurant, once confided that she thought she had Aids. She told me all about her tryst, when, where, and what, trying to get a rise out of me. And as she spoke, I knew it was all bs. I quietly took it all in, asked a few questions to confirm it was bs. Then she asked what would happen when she died? I told her she will be buried, maybe near her mother and our lives would go on. No stress in my voice, just matter of fact. She did not get the reply she wanted. Then an elderly woman at a nearby table stopped by and told how sorry she felt for her after all the effort she had put into trying to embarrass her SM didn't work and now how foolish she looked. I wanted to kiss her. She didn't pull that stunt again.
The flirting with her dad was never an issue. He would not have that behavior.
The sgd tried similar stuff with her mother OSD and myself. It got a rise out her mom, but not so much with me.
Your FDH may truly not understand how inappropriate his relationship looks like. If you're taking pics don't tell him why, just tell him you just feel like it. Then you can 'discover' together what the relationship looks like. As for the openess, ie periods, etc. that may just be how they are and you have to accept that or run like hell. He's cultivated that relationship as well as she has.