Well as of Nov 1 all of the papers have been signed with both BM's. BM number one however has been a disaster to deal with.
CS went down but the Child Support Division is dragging their feet. So DH is still giving her 1,000 a month. She emails daily on the costs of this and the costs of that. And how we aren't contributing to shit.... UM excuse me? We told her when she makes choices to go out and get what ever she wants and thinks she may want our help she should let us know before she buys it so we can tell her if we can do it or not. She replied with i will buy my babies what ever they want or need and I don't need to consult you for everything... SD17 is graduating this year. I guess we are POS's because we haven't contributed to shit for that either... um we talked to SD about her pictures offered to help but then were never even told if she had them. She had them taken and of course we can't have any. Can't even buy any because we didn't have to share in the cost of the pictures. UM seriously? BM keeps sending emails about how she is providing everything for her babies. How she is a mother and a student. And how she does it all.... well um you moved 6 hours away OF COURSE you have to do it all. HELLO! How can we be there to help when you are 6 hours away! I am so sick of her constantly telling us she is providing for everything and we are just ignoring his responsibilities.
Number 1... SHE HAS NO JOB! She chose to go to school and NOT work. And now her babies are suffering financially because she refuses to work.. YET she is doing the school thing so her kids will have a better life? Um excuse me SD will be gone this year. SS will be gone in 3 and the other SS will be on his way out the door by the time she graduates. HOW IS THIS FOR THE KIDS?????? HOW SELFISH OF HER. What about her kids right now? Oh that's right it's DH job to provide right down the the bone for skids so she can live off of the state. Lie to the schools and collect grant after grant because she doesn't admit that she lives with BF who makes enough money to support everyone.
NUMBER 2..... Where does she get off on stating she provides? She has no job that gives her a paycheck that provides for the needs of her kids RIGHT NOW! How is she justifying that she is the one providing WHEN WE ARE THE ONES WITH JOBS????

SOMEBODY PLEASE HELP ME TO UNDERSTAND PEOPLE LIKE HER!I am drained of her emails. I am drained of her degrading me and us in every single email. We have to sift through the BULLSHIT to find the one question we actually do need to address. UGH..... I am tired.
I have also decided that I will NOT buy SD17 and xmas present. I bought all the other skids. I will not buy hers. After all she has said and done to me and my daughter I am done.