Argument over soda!
My 15 YO step daughter heard I was headed to Costco & requested I pick up another case of Arnold Palmer lemonade. Having noticed that she's been going through a LOT of sugary pre-packaged drinks (like 2-4 per day & leaving most of them by her bedside table), I texted her back and said I would buy some more but emphasised they are a "treat" and we need to see a reduction on the consumption rate.
I let my wife know what I said and her response was somewhat predictable, "You want to compare that to the amount of pricey Pellegrino (you drink)?" and "the items we drink (including beer/alcohol) are much more expensive." This is what drives me nuts about how my wife is raising the kids - she fosters this attitude in them that they are somehow equal - that if my wife & I have something, the kids should have it too...or at least it should be "equitable"...even though the kids don't pay for anything. Um, sorry not sorry! If I went through 4 years of college and work 50 hours a week, I'm going to have some dang Titos on Friday night and not feel guilty (at all) about it.
Yes, this is defnitely a 1st World problem and I'm not even looking for answers/suggestions. This just pisses me off. I'm so glad I have a place to share some frustrations with folks who may be dealing with similar issues.
Tell your wife...
When SD is making the rentl/house payment and paying all the other bills, then she can have all the drinks she wants, as long as she pays for them.
You forgot to buy them...
You forgot to buy them... oops didn't see the text. You clearly weren't talking about the cost but more of the health aspect of it.
Go make yourself a spiked lemonade with the Arnold Palmer.
There is the cost and there
There is the cost and there is the detrimental effect on health. I never buy soft drinks. We were brought up at a time when they were a xmas treat.
The child might thank you later when she avoids diabetes.
Stop being so thoughtful.
Stop being so thoughtful. Let her nag her mother about them and have her pay for them. Are your finances separate? Might not be so annoying if your money isn't wasted like this. Complaining about is one thing ( I get it totally) but this can be solved easily.
OSD used to want the fancy
OSD used to want the fancy and expensive italian lemon sodas, then leave them unfinished. I just stopped buying them. No discussion.
Basically I don't buy special things, just necessities. It's on DHs fine to treat the SDs or to cater to expensive wants.
And I would never accept a comparison to adults. Both SDs have done this and the answer is if you are an adult you get to make your own choices. No further discussion.
Time for your wife to take
Time for your wife to take over all the shopping for the kids. Honestly, it's her decision what they eat and drink, just don't get involved anymore.
Think it's already been said
Just remind wife and sd that when sd gets a job she can buy her own stuff. You work right now so you can buy what you want for yourself, if you buy anything for sd it's a gift, not a given right
Sounds like you need to tell
Sounds like you need to tell your wife she needs to do the grocery shopping from now on. She can be the one that let's their teeth rot out of their head and wind up with huge dental bills. Wash your hands of it.
Easy solution.
Just don't buy the Arnold Palmer drinks.
End of problem.
It’s your home
It's your money, You are the man of the house you do what you want. Doesn't matter what I would do, or Joe down the block does. You must take control of your life.
Dont buy it. If she wants it. It's call get a job and buy all the lemon soda you can drink