ARE YOU F* Kidding me!!
I have BS9 - BD11 - BS4 and ST13 who live w/us FT!!
They get home first and I get home an hourish later with the 4 year old.
I have MY BD9 empty the dishes sometimes fill it back up; clean her room and sometimes run the vacuum; then she is free to play on the computer (FB)
I have tried to ask ST13 to start laundry. She has done this maybe 4 times within the past 4 months; or start one and then throw it in the dryer (like that counts)
OF COURSE SHE RUNS TO DADDY - so I get -"She doesn't like doing that; can she do something else?" R U F* KIDDING ME
Do you think my daughter LIKES to do this shit either; I don't care; you want money or sleepovers or anything; then do it!!
I didn't get to pick what I wanted to do.
We don't ever ask her to babysit; we still find sitters. We asked her to shovel the walkway last night; she said her wrist hurt; (but she went out and had a snow ball fight)
I cannot stand her or him!!!!!!!!!!
No one likes chores. She has
No one likes chores. She has to get over it. Tell him to either make her do it, or he can do it for her...
ha ha - my SD11 tells
ha ha - my SD11 tells everyone we treat her like a slave. When I ask her to do her own laundry, she wants to know how much she's going to get paid. Did I tell you it was HER OWN LAUNDRY!!!!!!!
Agree SpunkiDoolittle!! I am
Agree SpunkiDoolittle!! I am the boss; what I say goes; except for what I say doesn't apply to SD13 - she won't speak directly to me; like about the laundry thing; or what color she want ME to paint her room - or anything else. Dad lets her get away with this and in turn it is making me hate her
If the other kids are doing
If the other kids are doing the same things and helping out, so should she. It doesn't work that way. That must be driving you nuts. I would strongly address the problems with your DH.
Sorry you are going through this.
I agree stand up land say
I agree stand up land say something b/c it is not fair to the other kids period. I would tell my dh that too, See in the beginning my dh tried the same crap I let him know real quick that crap doesn't fly with purple. If he continued to under mind me he can sleep somewhere else with his little darlings in a pig sty! yes I did tell him that. If he wants to live in a pig sty then tell him to find one with is kids. What makes him think that one kid is more special then another?? GGRRR
I agree with all of this I
I agree with all of this I really do!!!!! My SD has this weird control thing over FH. She has hard a bit of a hard time this past year (as we all have) so he feels like he has to be nicer to her.....
I will tell my kids these thing; tough LOVE
If I speak out of tone or I don't say something nice enough to her; I will get my head bit off.
She has tested me to become the queen b of the house; and he let her
What are you going to do
What are you going to do about it? I would be telling my dh in no uncertain terms that I will not be second to anyone let alone a kid! If he can;t see that then he would be a divorced person yet again and yes I'd be saying that to him. I have told my dh several times that the relationship between the husband and wife always comes first. which also means that each other comes first over the kids. What a concept :jawdrop:
We are going to talk to
We are going to talk to someone tonight; but as it stands I told him I was leaving in Feb or March; I didn't want to do that to our kids around Christmas. I am just sick of the world revolving around her. What she says goes. The others will come in and say SD did this or that; and he does nothing; he down plays everything when it comes to her. That was my final straw I hate to break up a family; but what is a family with a depressed mother??
Thank you for the responses!! Much needed
I agree with SpunkiDoolittle
I agree with SpunkiDoolittle he should get the pic real quick once you do this.
I am new to all of this; but
I am new to all of this; but isn't that letting her win. Not talking to her or asking her to do anything. I just can't see not being in charge of everyone in my house hold. My kids know what I SAY GOES and dad does too (with my kids) I need to figure out why the hell SD13 gets treated so diff and special - like rules don't apply to her and why FH gets so defensive over her - it is very strange.
I know and see how this can work for people; but I guess I am not willing yet; maybe this would be the best way though. when we go talk to someone tonight I will ask.... Oh well if FH doesn't care; I tried to tell him.
Agree; It is just hard for me
Agree; It is just hard for me to do this because I am an "involved" parent; as he choosed to let this 13 year old raise herself and come and go as she pleases. But you are right; I would love to see her fall on her ass; or better yet it come back to hit daddy in the face............NICE; thanks