Anyone else think this is wierd?
Wow! So DH tries to call BM ONE MORE TIME to try to help her modify the loan on their mutually owned property before it is foreclosed on in August. I told him to try one more time, because she is an idiot, broke, and it sounds like her alternate plan is to move them to the most disgusting drug ridden town around with a dirty gross man she has known for 6 months. I wouldn't want to inflict that on anyone, not even the Skids.
All DH is asking is that she sign an agreement that one of them refinance the house in five years when the youngest turns 18 (she gets first shot) or they sell and split any profit or loss. In the meantime, while he is on the loan, they split the mortgage deductions. She absolutely refuses to give ANYTHING. He is just supposed to sign the deed over to her and stay on a 30 year loan with her forever or until she decides to move out and dump it on him. He is working on a refinance on his own now.
Anyways, the funnier part was that DH had work that was on hold for a couple days so he spent that time putting wood flooring into our house. I own the house entirely, I paid for the flooring, AND I paid him to put it in. I figured I had to pay someone and thats what he does for a living. Plus it is my house. He has done a ton of work around here and I have more than gotten my money's worth. DH told the skids about this and apparently they reported back to BM. BM was LIVID that SHE doesn't even have carpet in her bedroom, but DH is putting flooring into MY house. DH also has several hundred dollars of tools that he left in BM's shed - it's in the CO that these are his. He went to get them so that there was nothing of his left at that house and she came screaming out that he wasn't taking all of those to RESONYA's house. Does this woman not understand that we are married? It would be WAY wierder for him to be working on the house she lives in while he is married to me. She has made public comments about how SHE should be the one going on vacation when I took DH on a trip, she told DH that he was living in a 4 bedroom house while he kids suffered in their old house. When we first started dating, she had a fit that DH took me and DD2 trick or treating in the same town. She said that was HER town (DH lived there too at the time) and DH NEVER took THEIR kids trick or treating, sigh.
It's not like she even wants him back and she has slept around all over the place,even flauting it at DH. What is this? Just jealousy of our lifestyle? It's embarrassing! I can't tell you how many times she has gone on and on about me until DH is about to hang up and in the next breath is complaining that I decided not to provide the Skids with health insurance under my policy. She will tell me that she doesn't care anything about my life, never wants to talk to me again, but wants me to give her the kids medical cards and will not be answering any questions if bills come in. She was actually really surprised that I pulled the policies. Is it just insane entitlement?
Because I was stupid enough
Because I was stupid enough to even consider covering the skids. BM was spending $600 a month on insurance at her part time job. It didn't cost me anything to add them to my policy and it was way better insurance. I also really wanted to cover SD17 while she was in college (who has now totally backstabbed me, won't come over, and so I am GLAD I cancelled her policy). Like an idiot I offered, thinking all she'd have to pay is $15 for copays and prescriptions (she has SS12 on every insane medication for "bi-polar" known to man) - there were no dental copays. Great deal right?
I had no idea I was asking for a month long battle over $7.50 a visit that she wanted to bill us, she might not be able to pay the copays at some point, saying we were trying to screw her over and we should be paying all of the health insurance because we had more money. I tried to explain that I could not be ordered by the court to provide ANYTHING, and why I wanted her to sign an agreement to protect MY finances and all hell broke loose. She sent me a nasty email in all caps so I told her to assume the policies were cancelled. She actually called DH the next day saying she had no idea what she did wrong and hasn't stopped talking since then about how we (ME)aren't providing insurance,even after badmouthing me all over the place and sending more nasty emails. Guess if you are asking for something, you might try being polite, right? Not BM - "HER job is being a mom" (unlike the rest of us, I guess?)and should just be provided with everything she and her children need.
Guess your right newwife - I
Guess your right newwife - I just can't wrap my brain around their line of thinking. I like your tactic:)
I guess BM told DH last night that she isn't signing any agreement on the house with him because she knows that he and Redsonya are just trying to screw her over somehow. Yes BM, I have a beautiful, new 2500 square foot home a block from the lake with a view, with a killer interest rate in my own name that I've already paid down $40,000 on. But what I REALLY want is your 1200 square foot 1980's dump, in a crappy little neighborhood, with no yard, that that needs major cleaning, paint, and work because you can't be bothered for 16 years and is at least $40,000 underwater. Good lord. If we are LUCKY, DH and I can take the place over and lose a good $300 a month renting it out until he gets major work done on it or the market turns around.