I'm sorry you're in this situation. If you're not married to BM, I suggest running out of this situation as fast as your legs can possibly carry you. If you're married to her, you might want to look into getting marital and family counseling.

sheesh... do we have the same sd??? SD20 is the EXACT same way! She has her name on myspace listed as "Princess *******". She says the same kind of crap about being "awesome". Ugh, it makes me want to puke! :sick: I've been with dh for 11 years and we've separated twice and got back together so she pretty well knows by now that I'm around for the long haul. DH has ALWAYS put sk's above me so that's nothing new for me.

The only difference in our situations is that sd has been out on her own since she graduated in 2009... THANK GOD. Well, she's not on her own... she living with her fiance' who works 2 jobs (usually 80 hours per week) and she stays home with their almost 6 month old son. Her fiance' started working 2 jobs when she continually complained that they had no money for her go shopping and do things with. Now that he's working 2 jobs (and darn near killing himself), she bitches that he's never home and that he doesn't spend enough time with their son. {rolls eyes} And let me add that on top of working 2 jobs, her fiance' also has to clean the house himself because sd just lays in bed all day watching TV and then runs all night to her friend's and when he gets off (around 11ish) she will THEN go do a nightly run to walmart. She has been known to drag him and the baby out at 2am for walmart runs.

The one we DID have at home was SS22 who is just as bad as sd20 just in different ways... he's a complete mooch, totally lazy, doesn't have a job, and HAS to learn everything the HARD way... won't listen to JACK CRAP. SS22 entered the navy after graduation then during A-school, got himself booted out and was back in the area living with a friend for 2 weeks before he bothered to tell us anything. Then he moved in with some ho bag and that is when his temper started to come out... he had the cops called on him several times for domestic disturbances (yelling, screaming, and from what she said he hit her a couple of times). Then he went from that relationship to another one, but she was a descent girl... I liked her. They got married. They were separated within 7 months and divorced shortly thereafter. While they were separated, he met a 17 year old piece of trash that he knocked up. So he now has a 4 month old son... no job... doesn't see the child... doesn't offer any kind of support for the child. He was living with us for a while... after a flare of his temper one day I kicked his ass to the curb. A month later, dh let him come back with no discussion with me. (we live in my mom's house and have for 8 years since my dad passed away and she can't live alone because she is mentally ill). He lived here, if you wanna call it that, for over a year. 3 different jobs, fired from every one... never offered to help around the house financially or physically. Would be gone 2-4 days at a time, come home to take showers and eat up our food. I finally had enough with both sk's and drew up a list of rules. DH told ss I was going to do this before I did it... SS left and hasn't been back here in over a month. DH has talked to him twice since that happened (once because of a threat made to baby mama best friend that he was going to "kick baby mama's ass" that we found out about). DH pays for his cell phone (and SD's and her fiance's) and ss hasn't offered a dime towards the bill since he left. I sent him a text a week ago yesterday and told him he has 2 weeks to get his stuff out of here after a situation where he tried to send a friend of his here to get some of his stuff while only my mom was home. I never received a text back and dh hasn't heard from him either.

Both sk's have this horrible sense of entitlement... they both think that the world and everyone in it owes them something. Disengaging was the best thing I ever did and has restored my sanity and my peace. At this point in time the only time sd is allowed in my house or around my kids is when she brings the baby over to visit with us... she drops him off for an hour or 2 and then picks him up. She's not here more than 5 mins. That's all I can handle with her.

All of this said to say, you aren't alone in this. If you haven't talked to your SO about your feelings concerning all of this (which I'm assuming you probably have), that's about all you can really do short of disengaging from the sk's. If you're not married, I'm with Anon that at least you have the option of leaving the situation. In my situation, I separated from dh in 2008 and we lived apart until sd graduated at which time dh moved home and left sd and fiance' in the apartment they were in. There are some options, sometimes you just have to get creative to find them.

Well I wouldn't stick around. When the lifestyle and values and ethics of your partner are in such a diametrically opposing place to yours I can only see problem forEVER.

Does the BM consider her daughter a princess or is this something cute she puts up with so her daughter sticks around?
Actually my 3 yr old GD considers herself a princess. And she has the dress and everything. Maybe buy her Disney princess stuff for Chirstmas so she will feel the part.