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Submitted by Luna HG on Tue, 12/04/2012 - 10:36pm

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OK so this is my first time posting on this... so I would like just some general advice pls. So I have been with BF for a yr n 4 months. He has a son with his ex. They were never married nothing like that. So BF and BM meet each other because of me. I have been friends with both of them for years. They start having problems so I try to help them out because there my friends. I ended up getting stabbed in the back by BM but ended up getting closer to BF. They split up but she got preggo right before they split. BF and I get together and we stay together even thought i know she was preggo. She had SS. She still wants everyone to think her and BF are together even though everyone knows BF and I live together. She like to start up pointless problems which gets me really mad and BF does nothing about the ones he can do something about. So any advice i can get would greatly be appreciated. Smile

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Submitted by Kes on Wed, 12/05/2012 - 2:07am

If you will forgive me for saying - the set up with the three of you sounds a little incestuous. Some clear boundaries would be in everyone's interests, IMO.

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Submitted by amber3902 on Wed, 12/05/2012 - 7:37am

You don't explain what the "pointless problems" are, but here are some general guidelines.

All communication with BM should be handled by BF.
Pick ups, drop offs, anything to do with SS should be handled by BF.

Let BF parent his son, with you offering your support.

And remember the serenity prayer - accept the things you can not change, courage to change the things you can, and wisdom to know the difference.

Good luck

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Submitted by Luna HG on Wed, 12/05/2012 - 4:51pm

SS is 7 months old right now and shes has only gone to BF parents house to pick him up because my mother-in-law takes care of him when we have him. Our apartment is to small so when we have SS we take him to her house.