BF gave instructions to his lawyer several months ago that if BM would provide proof of employment and allow an official to inspect her home, he would drop the custody lawsuit. BM finally got her lawyer to talk to BF's lawyer, and talked to BF about it today. She agreed to do both things, and so now all they need to do is agree on who will perform the inspection. Apparently when BF's lawyer was talking to BM's lawyer, he mentioned that we are expecting again and that it was never BF's intention to lower the CS payments when he had subsequent children so BM is only hurting herself by keeping the CS case open in court. They were going to drop her payment after our first child, and will drop it even further after this child is born. Still, according to BF, BM will not drop her CS case though I can't for the life of me understand the logic behind that.

I am wondering if she received these instructions months ago and is just now acting like she knows about it to have given herself all this time to clean her house and get everything up to par. Honestly I would be very pleased if her house was in acceptable condition now and stayed that way. From the accounts of BF, SS, MIL and others, her house is a health hazard and a very unsafe place for a child to live. I will be interested to see how this investigation turns out.

BF suggested having DCS(our state's CPS) do the investigation to which I immediately groaned...he asked what my problem was. I said I think we've been proven to several times over that DCS is useless and they couldn't care less what the condition of BM's house was or they would have gotten into it when they were investigating it the first time. He said OK then, DCS and a sheriff, whatever it takes to get someone in that house that the court will recognize and allow to testify. I am pessimistic about the outcome of this "investigation"...if it's anything like what we've been through in the past, they'll drag it out for a couple of months and then drop it due to noncompliance on BM's part.