And as ususal the drama is all over SD17.

SD17 is going to be 18 in May. She is dating a boy who is 15, so wasn't going to prom, because his mother said he couldn't go. Well, Mom changed her mind, decided it was ok after all.

First thing SD17 asked was for her father to buy her dress, for $360.00. WE refused. I did offer that there were some nice, but not expensive dresses on sale at JC Penny, and I had a coupon for free shipping, and it was left at that. Never heard anything more, till last nite.

SD17 went to her Grandmother (BM's mother) and talked her into buying her a dress for $220.00. That started it. H was mad. So next thing, she asks H for a couple of hundred dollars to get her hair, manicure and pedicure done. And she's not done yet...it's followed by "Will you buy my shoes?" followed by "And I want to drive Bewitched's Jeep to prom."

H finally saw it. BM's income is down; she is a waitress, and people are not tipping like they used to. H's income is waaay down, due to cuts in hours, and garnishment. SD17 knows all this. Yet she continues to think that spending on her appearance should be top priority for all.

So H actually discussed it with me BEFORE he gave SD17 her answer. We agreed. We agreed to buy the shoes. We agreed to pay for a hairstyle. Nothing else. No manicure, no pedicure (I've personally never had either in my entire life). And no to the Jeep. H asked her why she couldn't drive her car. Her response was SHE needs something NEW to drive for prom. Ain't happening. I said not only no, but HELL no. The last two cars she drove were vandalized in the worst way-the mustang had holes shot in it, the car that was mine is keyed so bad it has to be completely repainted. Not to mention the damage SD17 herself has done to the vehicles. And she wants to drive mine. On the biggest party night of the year. Not.

For once, ladies, I am proud of H. He is concerned because SD17 is so self-centered, so ungrateful for the things that have been done for her. And he is very upset that she would go to her elderly grandmother, when we offered to buy her a prom dress for $70.00 but refused to spend $300.00 on one. BM is being an idiot, of course. She told H this is just a phase SD17 is going thru. Not. This all started when SD17 was 13 years old! I nicely pointed out to him to look at the sweetness of SD14, and compare it to how SD17 was at 14. Polar opposites.

I'm all for a girl getting fancied up for prom; it's a ritual. But if SD17 had her way, we'd have put out over $500.00 for her night of glory, and she could care less what hardship that would cause.

And I do remember being 17 and going to prom. And my parents would've skinned me alive if I'd gone to my grandmother because I wanted a designer dress instead of the one they could afford.

I think H is seeing what a spoiled diva SD17 is. He said no more. We will provide necessities from this day forward, and nothing else. Which, with his paycheck being where it is, is all we should be doing in the first place.