1st Time in My Life being glad Christmas is over-alone with skids & MIL...
I am so glad it's over-never viewed Christmas as torture before, but it was miserable. Thank God my son was here.
H shows up Christmas Eve, tired of course-but after the Christmas Eve phone call to me bitching me out yet again, I was not happy to see him.
Christmas morning H & SD17 go to get his mom-because my son was still at his dads (I'm so glad-H was going to try to get my son to do it!).
Fed everyone-my folks, my sis & her H, my son & gf, SD14, SD17, H. Opened gifts. Everyone acted pleased except SD17. I got her a puffy vest with a fur hoodie and a hoodie sweater, and she wouldn't even try them on. Because I got larges. They were from a Jr. size store, and at 125 lbs., she is no small. but she pouted and declared them too big. H made her try on the vest and it fit her perfect. But of course that was not good enough for her.
H left back to work in the evening--and left his leeches & his mother-who can't even get to the bathroom by herself- here for me to take care of! My son had to go stay at his gf's parents home-because MIL had the upstairs bedroom, leeches had the down. I was really really pissed and so ready to just fight it out, christmas, or not. but my son, bless his heart, just asked me to accept it-this time.
I mean, I'm sorry, you guys, but where in the world is it right for me to be here in my home, on Christmas nite, hosting his mother & his leeches-with him gone-and my son having to stay elsewhere? Where in the hell is that even close to right?
Oh, and of course, H was delighted with the gifts I gave him. I'm sorry to say that, after all the money put into his darlings for Christmas, SD17 pouted the whole time (because we gave them a Wii and she didn't get her flat screen with built in DVD player that she wanted). My gifts were so obviously an after thought for H. I could tell he put no effort into even caring about what I would like. Cheap purfume and one of those cheap little watches you can change the bands on.
I'm not materialistic. But after spending $480.00 on his daughters, you'd think he would have at least gotten me one nice gift.
H said he had a wonderful Christmas. How in the world can a husband say that when his wife is obviously miserable? I didn't even try to hide how upset I was. And everytime I turned around there was SD17-either pouting and fighting with SD14, or sitting on H's lap. She'll be 18 in May-and there she was constantly sitting on H's lap. Sickening.
I gotta find a job. Got to find a job.
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ewwww....
that's sick! Sitting on his lap like a GF???? EWWWWW....the mental of that is disgusting!
Glad your son kept you sane!
uh, somethin aint rite here...
not really trying to say that H's relationship borders on being incestuous BUT...its just not rite. why did he marry u if he already had a companion (and wife) in SD??
so sorry for u...even more sorry to say this post did not surprise me
go get a job PRONTO chica...i cant even begin to tell u how much better u really deserve...
"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin
H's mother & leeches staying here last nite, while my son had to
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
go to his gf's parents, is the talk of my family today. Why is it so clear to everyone else how very wrong this was, but H is yelling and screaming at me over the phone, calling me names, because I am so upset over this.
I told him today it's not all about him and his family-that my son and I count just as much as him and his do. I just wanted to say fock you. Get out of my life. If I only had a job, I would've said it. One job. Standing between me and a life. Standing between me and happiness. one job. So hard to find right now.
Put me on your prayer list, girls.
Oh bewitched
You are definitely on my prayer list!
Your situation is just so unreal, I don't even know what to say. There is nothing I can say or do to make any of it easier for you, but do know that I will say the most earnest prayer I've ever prayed in all my life that you will find PEACE. And I will pray for continued blessings for that wonderful, thoughtful son of yours!
WTF????
Dh's late 20 something year old sister hangs on the men folk in the family or always has to be sitting on their lap too!! Whats up with that???? It's a relief to knwo that I am not the only one who finds that disgusting and wierd!!
In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. Disgusting
It's not over yet-50 phones calls from H today-ripping me and
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
and my son is here, witnessing it all. 50 calls! till I just threw the phone across the room. I'm calling an attorney Monday...I can't take it ...he's sick. Just sick. And I can't stand the abuse anymore.
Great idea
"Could you move in next door with your parents and rent your house for a year or so?"
Now THAT is a great idea!
Bewitched, I'm sorry again you're going through a rough patch. You'll be better off the sooner you get him out!
Sasha-I'm actually going to call at attorney Monday, see what I
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
can do, where I stand. A couple of the 50 phone calls were H actually asking me if I wanted a divorce. I remained silent. I'm not about to give my thoughts up to this man.
Funny thing, now today he doesn't want to talk to me at all. Everyone's against him. He has to work so hard, He's the outcast at work-he's over worked and no one appreciates him. His kids got their Christmas gift, my son got his Christmas gift, he paid for the prime rib (his idea), everyone got to eat, (him included) poor, poor thing. No one cares. Oh, and all the guys at work went out together last nite and left him working-didn't invite him. Hmmm. Sounds like I'm not the only one whose had it with him, doesn't it?
He's mental. It's not just me-my son saw him calling me-over 50 times yesterday. Then silence today. The guys at work don't want him going out with them....says alot, don't you think?
Bewitched
There is something seriously wrong with that man. He sounds a lot like my stepdad...manic/depressive.
I really do wish you all the best and hope you are able to dig yourself out of this mess.
Just think...once you get rid of him his daughter can have him all to herself!
Popping Xanax-and both my sis now know what I married
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
because of the constant phone calls yesterday, telling me how terrible I am, telling me I'm a bitch, on and on and over and over, I didn't get time with my sister. But she showed up on the doorstep as he was ranting at me...she heard. She knows what he is now.
So suddenly this afternoon, everything is fine. He acts like nothing has happened--except chewed me out for always cleaning, and telling me I have low self-esteem. He's probably right about that now--I certainly didn't before I married him, but how to take all the screaming, yelling cursing without it affecting me is beyond me. Popping Xanax. Can you sue your husband for emotional/mental abuse?