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BM taught us a lesson today, just say no

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Submitted by Nymh on Fri, 10/17/2008 - 7:27pm

When BM informed BF that she had planned for SS to go to a fall festival today on BF's time, BF didn't like it but agreed since BM said she would give BF some extra time with SS to make up for it and would bring SS back to us today. Well, suprise suprise, BM called this afternoon to inform BF that she couldn't the gas afford to bring SS back. Then she said that if BF didn't come get him then it would be his fault that he lost this weekend with SS since technically in the parenting plan it states that he's to provide sole transportation. What a crock of crap! I think she had this planned all along. I told BF he should tell BM that next time she decides to plan something for SS on BF's time that she can provide ALL transportation AND give BF extra time to make up for it or she can forget about it. He said he'd just tell her to "go F*** herself".

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Submitted by Most Evil on Sat, 10/18/2008 - 8:23am

she won't work with you. So does she plan to stay home until gas is delivered to her somehow? Next time I think your DH is correct to tell her that!

"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin

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Submitted by everythinghappe... on Sat, 10/18/2008 - 1:20pm

We found that each and everytime we accomodated her schedule to take skids anywhere, it turned around to bite us in the ass. We said, either we stick with the regular schedule or we cancel this weekend altogether and continue on the next visitation. It meant us missing out on seeing them, but it also stopped her from this very same crap because she doesn't like having them for 3 weekends in a row..likes her weekends off. So she stopped asking us to change weekends & we do not have to face "this" issue with her anymore. You should try it Smile

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Submitted by Nymh on Sat, 10/18/2008 - 2:53pm

BM would love nothing more than for BF to never pick up SS again. It's on her agenda to get his parental and visitation rights terminated so that he never gets to see SS except "when SS chooses to visit", which means when BM wants SS to come...which equals never.

*~So sayeth Nymh~*

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Submitted by Nymh on Mon, 10/20/2008 - 5:09am

She can do her thing on her time. If it’s something for school or something you want to do, then you take him, not her.

That's exactly what I said. I told BF that if she still wants to schedule things for SS to do on BF's time, then BF should be the one to take him. BM is notorious for scheduling not only fun activities but also doctor's appointments on BF's time, then INSISTING that she MUST be the one to take SS. I don't understand why BF is incapable in her eyes of taking SS to these things.

If it were my kid, I'd tell her to go F herself next time too.

*~So sayeth Nymh~*