I think thats the wack jobs defense- they make us wonder if we jumped off the deep end.
when you forward those messages you should use cruellas troll phrase!

There is no reason where logic does not exist

just another fine example of a jealous, vindictive BM not wanting stepmom to have any part in the relationship at all. it is your f***ing business!!!
our BM did this once...i answered his phone bc she had just picked her up and texted and then called and i was sick of her crap and we got into it after she started getting shitty w me. we were arguing over pickup times. i said i read the papers and i know what they say. she told me i had no business reading those custody papers. i said...i read the papers, and it IS my business and hung up. she didnt call back

"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin

BM does this thing (just mentioned it on Bella's post) where if he doesn't answer and she really "needs" (or thinks so) to talk to him she will not leave a message but incessantly re-dial. Once, when DH was taking care of newborn Anna while I caught up on some stuff, the cell rang four different calls in a row. DH wasn't going to put Anna down to answer it b/c he knew it was BM. So as I was walking through the room mid fifth call/ringing, I put my hand out, DH placed his phone in it, and I answered with "HELLO?" She was at a total loss to have my presence in the world confirmed unexpectedly and stuttered and stammered asking for SD.

I wish she would have asked for DH so I could have said, "He's changing our baby right now, may I have him call you back"

Good for you that you answered the phone. Perhaps the calls will be directed solely at DH's cell if he has one from now on. But if BM starts harassing DH by phone on his cell, I STILL answer. It breaks the pattern.

Oh- and the funny thing is that BM was accused of phone harassment when DH worked/lived on post at West Point, by another couple officers wives. It was part of the reason he was asked to find a new assignment (way to go BM- cost your H his dream job teaching and assistant coaching at his Alma Matter- the marriage ended about a year later.)

Anyway...during the custody case, and every so often still, if DH calls once a day and leaves a message for either BM or SD if she's at BM's (which is the only time he would call once a day) BM accusing him of phone harassment.

SD also claimed to BM that DH was "stalking" SD when BM would have her on the weekend, yet arrange for her to stay with kids in our neighborhood (BIG blow up on that one.)

Wonder where SD gets the term "stalking" when talking about her own father?

"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra

of recording phone calls. Only one person has to know it's being recorded in my state too. You can even do it with an old cassette player and hook up to phone, and press record just when needed. Lots of easier better ways now though.