BM can't read a map
BM lives about 66 miles north of us. Its pretty much a straight shot up a highway, 70 mph all most all the way. So BM emails this evening, asking if BF could pick up BS at another location - stating its 20 miles closer for him. Wrong, its more like 60 miles from us (more east than north) and then we would have to drive another 30 plus miles on the freeway (totally different route than we take to BM's house) to BF's parents house where he has his parenting time because BM will not allow him to take his son to our own home, claiming its too far away from his mother. So how is this closer? Can she not read a map? She was able to figure out that we are 66 miles from her.
I have suggested to BF that ok we will pick up BS at the different location but BM has to come to our city to pick him up.
Any thoughts or suggestions?
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Yeah, take him home.
Why he would be any "safer" with his father than his mother is beyond me. I get that he's a baby, but there's no formal custody order in place yet and until there is, she has no more say so than he does over that child. I hope you guys can get a formal order nailed down soon. That should help with a lot of the stupid little struggles you're going through now.
♥ Georgia ♥
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UPDATE
BM emailed last night at like 9:15pm stating nevermind pick up baby at her house and then sent another one right after that one stating sher wanted to explain why she wanted BF to pick baby up at another location and never did explain it. She went on to say she had to stay home and have the house pressure washed before it gets painted. Funny - it never got done today. BM can't take care of anything - the flowers she bought to hang on the garage about 2 weeks ago are all ready pretty much dead. DUH - you have to water them. Good thing she does not forget to feed that baby - just can't remember when she did it last.
do not let her dictate visitation
he has as much rite to the baby as she does. he has every rite to take her to his own house. hes what, 9 mos old??? he doesnt need to be breast-fed, bottle is fine so theres no need to stay close to her. dont let her dictate it now or even when u do get a formal order she will still be pulling this crap. get a formal order, adhere to it strictly, dont let her make all the rules and when she doesnt comply, charge her w w/holding baby from the father as per the court order