Yes, I am still alive for all who were wondering. Here are some updates on what's been going on in my life these past several months!

BM had been doing very well, her psycho-ness had died down and she was functioning pretty much as a normal person (or at least so we thought). BF and I were basking in the new-found normalness and escape from the stress that she usually put us through. A lot of you newbies may not fully understand the implications of this, but for those of you familiar with my situation, you will grasp how amazing this is. He even (against my better judgement, but I didn't say anything) loaned her a couple hundred dollars and a laptop to get her by since hers was broken.

WELL

Let me start by saying: We are pregnant! Hooray! We're due in October and we're super duper excited. We decided to start trying in January while we were in Disney World with SS (yes, BM actually let us take him to Florida. See how different things had been??)

However, BM being the stalker-at-heart that she always has been, tracked down BF's Myspace page online. His page is private, but there is a tagline that is displayed on your profile even if it is private. She read on there that he was going to be a Dad again and flipped out. I was getting messages from fake people saying it was horrible that SS had to find out by a Myspace page and not being told by us, and how the world would be a better place if people wouldn't procreate with just anyone, and that we were sending a bad message to SS by having a child together when we're not married, blah blah blah. She claims that SS was the one who found it. She's started this thing where every time she finds a new piece of info about us, she blames it on SS. Then BM emailed BF and asked him to call her IMMEDIATELY. So he did, and she started going on about how she knows now that he left her because she can't give him another child and asking him if they would still be married if she was able to have children. Of course, she turned US having a child together to somehow be all about HER.

Well, after a day or two she calmed down. Then she called him again asking for more money...this time to the tune of about $600. He told her that now wasn't the best time for him to let go of that kind of money but that he might be able to later on. Well! She started going off on him about how he doesn't care about his son anymore, that he loves my baby more than he loves his son and now SS is going to be pushed aside and ignored. BF tried to get her to calm down and have a rational conversation but she wouldn't have it. So instead, he drove out to her house, gave her back her broken laptop and made her give his back. The whole time she was cussing and yelling mean things about him, me, and my baby blah blah blah.

SO

Now BF is back to as little contact with her as possible. We all knew it would happen, but oh well. She had been so nice for so long (we're talking several months) that both of us were beginning to be convinced that it might be for real. Oh well.

THEN

Come to find out this morning that BM was FIRED from her job in October...she claims she was fired because of her personal medical issues and because she has a "special needs" child (I hate it when she says that!). Though, I've heard of her calling in to school and work several times (we're talking once or twice a week) because SS or herself would be "sick", but he and she were perfectly fine. Or there were the doctor's appointments that never existed. She called in to school the day after SS got back from visiting us saying that she had caught the bug he had had for a week...but he was perfectly healthy when he visited us. So for the past four months she's had no income at all and didn't even tell us. I just don't understand why someone would call in so much without a real reason? She must have known that she would be fired...and how can you make money when you're sitting on your butt at home instead of at work? I just don't understand it I guess...like how she could complain about not having any money when she always called in to work.

Question: Does anyone have experience dealing with a BM who does not work? What happens or could happen custody/CS wise? I would imagine the reason she hasn't told us is because she is afraid that SS could be taken from her if we find out she is without work...?

But anyway, thanks for reading this update on my crazy life!