Depends on your state, how the officer feels about what happened and after all we went through to get one against BM the best it was worth for us was spitballs.
If she causes problems in public like that don't you have a disturbing the peace or disorderly conduct law?
Tell DH to find his balls and listen since you have clearly already told him what you want him to do. DUH he can't control her, gee glad he figured that out(sorry that excuse was used in the beginning of our relationship and still makes my blood boil) but he can make it known he will not sit there like nothing is happening- thats almost encouraging to a psycho, now BM person is most likely thinking he's not taking sides between you two and thats fine if hes not sleeping with one of you or living or- well you know what I mean. I still can't comprehend her thinking you can't be in a public building what next IHOP or maybe the park? I wonder if these women have any idea how distant they are from reality?

Does she threaten consequences when she tells you you're not to be in these places? Or does she just try to tell you where you can and can't be? If she doesn't come out and say "You better not set foot near SS's football practice or I will _________," it's not really a threat, it's just bullying. You can't really get a restraining order if all she's doing is trying to boss you around (unless you have overwhelming evidence that you've repeatedly asked her to stop and she continues anyway).

I think the problem with this woman is that no one is standing up to her. I haven't read any other of your entries (sorry, it's been a long time since I've visited this site) but from this one I get the general tone that she does and says what she wants, BF does nothing about it, and you feel stuck in the middle and don't want to piss anyone off. You don't want to stand up to her because you're afraid that would cause more problems, but you're afraid to tell BF to stand up for you because he's very obviously trying to stay out of it to avoid conflict.

The most important thing to remember is that this is probably never going to improve unless you two present a united front (don't you hate that phrase? United Front? It seems to be used a lot in these situations but it's really true) to this woman. Yes, that means stepping on some toes. This woman will always feel like she has the right to boss you around unless the two of you consistently stand up to her and show her that not only are you not afraid of her, she's not your boss, and you will do what you want when you want in support of your SS without her permission or approval.

Try to remember (though I know it is hard...trust me, I know) that this woman is not your enemy, she is your SS's mother (or whatever).

In answer to your question - a restraining order is a civil process that says she can't come near or contact you whether directly or indirectly. If she does so, the most you can do is take her back to court for contempt. Usually they'll fine her for every instance of contempt and make her pay court costs and such. But I'm telling you from experience, it's really hard for a woman to get one on another woman and everyone moves a little slower in this situation because no one really feels like it could possibly be that big of a threat. In my situation BM made a complete ass of herself and basically ruined all chances of coming off clean by harrassing everyone involved until she had basically no credibility and everyone was so frustrated with her she never stood a chance. But considering BM in your situation doesn't go out of her way to be a thorn in everyone's side, you might not have it so easy getting a restraining order. I'm not saying it won't happen, just that usually it's pretty hard unless you have overwhelming evidence.

*~So sayeth Nymh~*

For starters quit turning a blind eye and be a man. He doesn't want drama with her, well its all his drama. ITs his kid, his ex or whatever so its all his drama. No he cannot control her or her actions but he can stand his ground and put her in her place. They are not together or anything and he is allowed to move on with his life. SO he needs to remember that he has a set of balls and use them.

Happy
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...the best way to get a man to understand is for us to act as oblivious as they act. Maybe if they are forced to deal with their own crap, then it'll give them a taste of what it's like for the rest of us. I call my DH "Captain Oblivious." Last week, he got promoted to "Major Prick." This week, though, he's kind of had an epiphany about the seriousness of the whole rotten situation and seems to really be trying to see things through my eyes for the first time in YEARS. It took me not giving a shit for a very long time for him to start giving a shit himself. (If he continues on this upward trend, he may be looking at another promotion. How does Colonel Cupcake sound?)

~ Anne ~

"Love, having no geography, knows no boundaries."
(Truman Capote)