BM is just trying to bug you.
I gave birth to 7 kids and each one of them was breastfed. Each one after the first saw me breast feed the new baby and none of them have mental problems over it.
As long as you or your husband explain that it's a natural way to feed the baby just like cats and dogs do(they don't make bottles do they?), and don't walk around hanging out all over then there shouldn't be a problem and there is nothing abusive, pornographic, or otherwise that any CPS worker or court could or would charge you for.
Tell BM grow up and get over it!!!!
Lisa Dawn

Both of mine were breastfed. My three skids were all bottle babies. Did they have questions, oh, you betcha! Did I answer them? Of course. Was it a big deal? No way. Did their mom care? I don't know. If she did, she didn't say a word to me.

Breastfeeding has no more to do with sexuality than whipping up a pot roast in your kitchen fully-clothed. Tell BM that you'll have a talk with him about breastfeeding and answer all his questions, but that you will be feeding your child and he may be exposed to it, but that it's a good thing, because he'll be learning about the best way to nurture one's child and, hopefully, when he grows up and has children, he'll be able to encourage and support his wife in her breastfeeding endeavors. Then don't listen to another word she says about it and enjoy it while it lasts!

~ Anne ~

We are the masters of our own fate; the architects of our own destiny.

so you decide where you feed your little girl. I agree with the other posts - ignore BM. Answer your SS's questions in terms he can understand about a perfectly natural and healthy action and continue to take care of your daughter the way YOU want to!

marika

Oh my god! What a studpid reason for her to make waves. Just blow it off. Its amazing to me how they will try to control us in the most outrageous ways.

I have a slightly different opinion. BF is an issue that's sensitive for some people, and usually you can choose whether or not your child is viewing what you MAY perceive as a private moment that should not be in view for everyone to see (I don't personally feel this way, but I do feel that people should be respectful of other's views on the matter). You might think that this is a natural, beautiful thing but BM doesn't agree for some reason and that's her right. She feels strange about it and so...I kind of feel that since she is his mother, considering maybe BFing in another part of the house may not be the worst thing.

I don't think she's wrong for having an opinion...BUT I think she went about it all wrong. She should've addressed the matter with your DH. If HE says that he will take care of the questions and that he wants his son to see it, then she's shit out of luck.

Just my $0.02!!

What does BF say? It's his kid too. There is nothing more natural and loving than nursing a baby. It's good for him to see. It's good for him to ask questions.

SS was 7 when I had had first BS. He watched me breastfeed. He asked me questions. He was never embarassed or thought much of it, because it was presented to him as something normal and natural.

He was also not embarassed to watch me change a diaper. It's part of having a baby. So is breastfeeding (for some of us).

Weeeeell...going potty is also a normal and natural thing, and we don't let our SKs (or anyone) watch us do that, right? I'm just playing devil's advocate here. I don't have a preference either way. Yes, BFing is natural and it's healthy for the baby, but not everyone thinks of it as THE way to do it. And those people probably aren't comfortable witnessing the act. It is a beautiful thing, but is keeping it between the mother and child (and maybe the father) really making it less "beautiful"? I don't know. I agree--the DH should weigh in here to make a final choice.

Just wanted to add that I'd argue there ARE things more loving and natrual than nursing. I didn't do it because my daughter was very premature and I couldn't, but I don't think that someone who DID BF is closer or more loving to their baby than I was to mine, who I sat with in the NICU for the 12 hours per day that it was opened for 6 weeks while she grew strong enough to come home.

Every mother has the right to make up their own mind regarding breastfeeding. However, no woman has the right to tell another woman to or not to do it. OR, whether or not they can do it in their own home.

I think it is VERY wrong to make a mother hide in her own home in order to feed her baby. As long as her DH agrees, the BM has no say. It is not indecent. It is not something to be ashamed of. I think that if a mother has to hide from a child in order to breastfeed, she is teaching the child that it is something shameful. It is not shameful. It IS natural.

I don't disagree. I just think that a mother has the right to ask that another woman NOT bare her breast in front of her son. That's all. The BM did not say the SM couldn't do it in her home. She simply asked that she not do it in front of her child. I don't see how that's "hiding". Agree to disagree?

my baby when he arrives. I am pretty modest especially when it come to my step sons. Their mom is very thin & built like a boy barely an A cup. I am very womanly and a DD now that I am pregnant a large c normally. When they are with us I always cover up more around the house & at night. I even bought PJ's that I only wore when they were around. I will probably try to cover up when I am feeding the baby when they are with us.

Funny story but I had made some comment to oldest ( 9) about not walking in on me when I was in the shower. He made the comment, don't worry, I've seen my mom naked before it's no big deal. I told him, you may have seen her, but seeing me is a differnt deal pal.DH says BM showered with the boys till they were 4. ewwe!!!! I think if they were ever to see their brother eating they would live. It would never cross my mind to talk to BM about it. I mean hey she sleeps with her BF with her kids in the house even after the oldest told her it was wrong & he didn't like it. LOL!