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I Didn't Call

smcpaw's picture

Well ladies - I didn't call and I'm sure BF's daughter will hold it against me like everything else. Oh well. She did call her father and thank her for the flowers, but that was in the middle of her surprise party that her mom threw for her (flowers were delivered in the morning the party started at 6:00 p.m. and she called and left a message for her father at 7:10 p.m. during the party). I was glad for my boyfriend that she called and thanked him, although she waited for a long time before calling and I wonder who at the party convinced her to call...

My boyfriend told me that she had grades in the 80s in summer school and he asked me why she couldn't do that during the school year. I had to explain that I believe everyone passes summer school as long as they show up - I feel summer school is a cop out - how can they learn a whole year's worth of school material in 6 weeks' time? Maybe I should have kept my opinion to myself - but that's the problem - she is always being rewarded when she should have passed in the first place...So much for my boyfriend taking a stand - it's a vicious cycle - she is bad, he get mad, she goes back to mommy until dad feels guilty and forgives and forgets and round and round! UGH!

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Sweetie's picture

Dear Smcpaw,
Stand your ground, and don't feel bad about not calling. You did what needed to be done, so just go ahead and move on. I know how hard and annoying it is hearing about your SD's success in summer school, when realistically, we all know she should have done the work during the school year. It's just something you're not going to be fight. You get to a point where you're going to have to choose your battles. And really, at this point, she's out of the house. So, there's nothing else you're going to be able to do, unless she decides she wants to make some changes in her behavior. I am glad, that she at least, had the decency to call your boyfriend and thank him for the flowers. B/C if she hadn't, that would have been totally inexcusable. So, look at it this way, at least she's better than my SD! You're one up on me! Smile I know the cycle is frustrating and annoying, but hopefully, your boyfriend will stick to what he told his daughter and maybe over time things will change. In the meantime, try to enjoy the quiet while you can since you don't have the disruptions at home.
Take care and let us know how things are going.
Regards,
Sweetie