Problems with my partner’s 2 eldest children.

My partner’s adult son is totally worthless. His adult daughter is slightly better but very sly. The daughter took my home as a nursery for her and her friends and the son took my home for yuktHe took my house for a party house, nursery and so forth. The son takes the house for his personal meeting house for him and his friends, he has terrible BO and generally does not respect the house. Additionally the son used to play loud music. I told the son to turn the music down many a time, as I would probably get a warning letter from the Council. I eventually did. They even played loud music on a Friday afternoon when I was working so I was unable to concentrate.I have tried dropping hints to my partner but he does not tend to listen. His daughter (if given the opportunity again), used to take me for a bank/taxi and want me to do everything for her. Eventually I put my foot down and made it quite clear that I would not help her anymore. I offered to help my partner to occasionally pick up his daughter's child from school as I work from home during the day and my job is pressurised. Now my partner and she expect me to do it all the time, especially on Thursdays when he has gone out and she knows that he is unavailable to do so. She will phone me near the time she would be due to pick up the child and state that she is stuck and I have to pick up the grandchild. The grandchild herself can be selfish and spiteful to my grandchildren and I admit I do distance myself from his children and grandchildren as my grandchildren and his do not get on. My children are aware of the situation with his children taking liberties and they do not like it. Even when we are sleeping, his son will ring the bell in the middle of the night and brings his latest fling to my home. The son split up from his wife and has women all over the place and has several children, one of whom almost set my house on fire, through playing with paper where my living room fire was on.

Even my younger grandchildren know not to play with fire but those grandchildren of his are unruly,rude and disrespectful also that I do not want them in my home. I do not actually know where the son lives now and when he does bring two of his elder children to my home, I obviously ask them if they want anything to eat/drink and he will answer NO,then next minute when my partner asks, the son will allow his children to answer themselves. Obviously the impression is that he has instructed HIS children not to take anything from ME, but still wants to abuse my hospitality.

The daughter keeps 'borrowing' stuff from my home that are expensive and knows I use all the time and does not have the respect to put things back neatly and will leave things all over the place and sneak off. It has come to a situation where I am so fed up of his children that I deliberately do not replace things. My partner and I have been together for a long time that if we do split up, I will probably move and not tell his children where I live. When I first met his children I treated them very well, but since I realised that they are liberty-takers, I have no interest in them at all and distance my self completely from them to the point of being unsocial.

With the son and his friend the BO, I have tried everything to drop hints, from pouring bleach in the rooms when he comes and talking to my partner about nasty smells in the house on occasions. My partner does not tend to listen as he knows that his son stinks too. he son shows no respect for my home and does not clear up his mess. I want to tell him to **** off and don't come back but that would cause trouble between me and my partner. The son is in his mid thirties and has women all over the place, bringing people to my home at all hours. I am so fed up of his son and his daughter that if me and my partner ever split up, I would sell up and move and those liberty-taking children of his would NEVER see me again........

UPDATE!!!!! An update on the problem with my partner’s son. The son still stinks but I have totally disengaged from him. He still carried on the slackness with different women and when I was at the Office one day, he came to my home and my grandson was there. The idiot (my partner s son) asked my grandson if I was there and then checked the rooms to ensure I was not there. He then brought another yes another woman in the house and they were doing things in my front room that a child should not walk into the room and see. The idiot begged my grandson not to tell me. To cut a long story short, the stinking fool turned up at my home at 5am one morning and them started to argue with my partner about things of his constantly going missing. I told him that my home is not a SOCIAL CLUB for him and his GIRLS and why doesnt he go to the womens houses. He has a girlfriend (one of many) who I do not think realises what he is up to.. and he has kids all over the place. Unfortunately for me, my partner called me a liar as well. Im so fed up of the stinking son. I hate HIM with a vengance. He completely disrespects his own father. the idiot then came to me to ask my opinion and then said he comes to the house with love in his heart. I could not hold my hate any longer. I then told him about his action of dissing me in front of his own kids one time, when they called me grandma. He shouted and pointed at me telling them to my face that this woman is NOTHING to do with you . He still wants to dump his lids in my home...NO WAY..and then acting all nice in front of his father (my partner). The idiot denied this and proceeded to call ME a liar, getting down on his knees in front of his father with crocodile tears saying that he did not diss me in front of his kids. I told him exactly what I thought of him and said no more and that Ive had ENOUGH of him.The son got down on his hands and knees and DENIED ever disrespecting me in my home…..His father is a wonderful man but the 1 flaw is his son. How would you handle this situation? And he still wants a key to my home….naff orf!!!!!!niet, non, NO!!!!!!!!!!

The idiot then came to me to ask my opinion and then said he comes to the house with love in his heart. I could not hold my hate any longer. I then told him about his previous action of dissing me in front of his own kids, when they called me grandma. He shouted and pointed at me telling them to my face that this woman is NOTHING to do with you . He still wants to dump his lids in my home...NO WAY..and then acting all nice in front of his father (my partner). The idiot denied this and proceeded to call ME a liar, getting down on his knees in front of his father with crocodile tears saying that he did not diss me in front of his kids. OSCAR WINNING PERFORMANCE I told him exactly what I thought of him and said no more and that Ive had ENOUGH of him. Unfortunately for me my partner called me a LIAR in front of his son….

I have told my partner I cannot forgive him for doubting me as I am not a liar and am known for telling the truth…..

Further update the son does not come to my home anymore….but he did come one Sat afternoon…I was sleeping and could hear the bastard’s voice in my home….after he left I went downstairs and started to complain about a stinking smell in the house and started pouring disinfectant all around the house….i know that the stinking son had been there but just acted like I WAS UNAWARE OFANYONE COMING TO THE HOUSE…needless to say I think my partner was embarrassed to know that the son had come to the house and stank up the place. I have blatantly told my partner that I HATE his son and don’t want HIM around me or coming to my home. I am not paying a mortgage for the likes of HIM……..even my electric bill has gone down since the son stopped coming to my home…..

I have now noticed the daughter and granddaughter have terrible BO too but am saying nothing……. What a life!!!!!!

The daughter is 30 and the son is 39….MY PARTNER IS 58…I have adult kids but when they showed disrespect to my partner years ago, I pulled my children up IMMEDIATELY….

I THINK MY PARTNER THINKS THE SUN SHINES OUT OF HIS KIDS BACKSIDES……