So over the yrs DH & BM have barely communicated, mainly because it usually turns into an argument. There have also been times where they didn't communicate at all. But then there have been times, like the week before DH and I got married, she called and asked him "Are you really happy with her, because I'm not happy in my marriage and I think we should give ours another chance". Or the time, after we were married, she called DH crying and said "You know SS will never be ok if we don't get back together". She has told the skids that if DH and I divorce & something happens to her marriage she will try to work things out with their father because she still loves him and the deserve to have their family together. When she sees pictures of SD and DH, she sends private messages to SD, telling her that one day she will be back in those pictures on the other side (SD and I have a very close relationship and SD tells me everything her BM says about this stuff). She sends DH text messages to tell him happy father's day or happy birthday, although the children are always with him on those days. Now, don't think I am being petty, if the skids were small children and not with him, I could understand the "happy father's/birth day" or even if they had a friendly relationship after their divorce, but that is not the case. The skids are 14 and 15 y/o's. She recently started contacting him about rather the skids were coming to see her on her weekend, instead of calling/texting either of the skids...they both have cell-phones just so he doesn't have to talk to her.

Until recently I haven't had an issue with any of these things, because I know how DH feels about me first and foremost...but I also know how he feels about BM...there is no way he would ever put his children back in that situation. SD doesn't want that either. However recently, during an extremely emotional morning, when SS was in trouble, he made it very clear that he does not want DH and I to be together. He wants DH and BM back together. Understandably, most children want their bios back together. But skids have been living with DH & I for nearly 8 years. I feel like this is something that she is instigating to try and cause problems in our home. SS and DH are very close, and I think BM thinks she can use guilt to get to him. Not that it will work, but I think that's her goal.