When do you just blow ?
Ok. SD 24 yrs old. Here we go again.
I didn't spend thanksgiving nor Christmas 2015 around SD 24 or SS 23. Didn't buy any gifts but I'm sure DH their dad put my name on something.
I'm sure you think I'm mean. But, no word not one from either of them in a year. Yes, they know where we live and my cell. Also, SS came over and got stuff out of basement and had some functions with DH .
So I feel like this : I'd rather have no words then bad words.
So, I'll get to it.
He and I rode the Harley and lost track of the time to meet his kiddos for Easter. Well, the plan was to ride, soak up the good weather, drop me off and he drives back to his dad's house. Bc his daughter wanted to spend time with them there.
Yes, she gave the place but we've tried to take the approach of them not being here bc of their rudeness towards me. It didn't work !!!
Well, we forgot the clock doesn't automatically set itself to the time change like our cell phones.
So, I swallow my pride and kind of force myself to go. It'd be 1/2 hr each way.
I never dreamed it'd blow down so bad.
SD talks about herself from the time we get there to the time we leave. She's loud and obnoxious. No one gets to talk but her. Nobody says hi. Nobody says hey how are you. I eat yes extremely quietly bc as we eat she starts running her mouth about the house her BM bought and she tells dad DH how to get to it. No one at any time talks to me. I'm set up. It was intentional. Of course , there's a volcano inside me. I sit and have no eye contact bc I'm trying to hold it together!! I later ask DH if this goes on when I'm not there. He says no.
I'm officially done with BM and SD. Done.
I feel really bad for DH at times. But, we had a big discussion. My question to him is why does he sit there. Why does he not put her straight. Just shut her pie hole. ? Why ?
I told him she is so disrespectful to him and me. She picks at our relationship. She acts as though I'm a stranger . Like I am invisible. As, her mom said the same thing, that I am a stranger.
I just want to go off. But, I'm waiting for him to step up.
I don't feel like I need to tolerate this BS.
If SD breathes one word about directions to her BM house ( which DH told me she has given him the address already which made him uneasy ) or talking about her mom in present or past pretext I'm blowing up. !!!
I've tried to be nice, kind, caring, patient ect. And it did nothing for me. It just gets shoved down my throat .
There's going to be damaged feelings .
I mean there's nothing else to do. He has relentlessly tried talking to his AC. And especially this big blow heart daughter. Why do I have to be out of sight because of them ? It's a game that I am so done with.
Like, how do you sit there and ignore me so eloquently as SD ? Do they teach this in Rude Classses at college at what!? Sarcasm .
Unfortunately, DH has to pay court ordered for this newer truck. And they stand there bragging how they drove it out of state. SS brags how in one year he drives it 30,000 miles. Omg really. He works close to home, they drive it locally I thought. And SD starts showing DH a scratch. Of course, they want him to fix it. He calls me over and says what do you think. I give the shit face. Like, ha really. I swallow my sharp tongue. And say, wax whatever , walk away rolling eyes. Ha.
It's their plan to constantly think of how DH should give them money. I can't wait till he pays it off so I can say shove it up your a**!!
Pissed SM
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Better yet I hope after he
Better yet I hope after he pays it off . It quits . Engine blows ! BM drives it too.
My DH is the door mat to them.
He's the bearer of their burdens.
It's going to be the death of him.
This will continue until your
This will continue until your DH stands up for himself. As for you, take yourself out of the situation. Don't break bread with them, don't share holidays with them.... just don't. These are adults and you are under no obligation to them at all. I know, it's hard watching it and being powerless to stop it but, it isn't your fight. Disengage. Better than being made the scapegoat, right? I mean, are they really worth it? My guess is NO. But hey, keep venting if it helps, lol.
Yes. Venting is all I have .
Yes. Venting is all I have . SD and BM two manipulation freaks !!!
Both tricky
Do not ever spend one more
Do not ever spend one more millisecond of time with them under any circumstances. If there's a "next time" about not having enough time to get you home change it to "not enough time for him to go."
Please just erase them totally. Do not let your DH even mention their names in your presence.
I've only seen my SS once for about 2 minutes in the past 2 1/2 years. Part of my reasoning (to myself not to DH) was that I gave myself permission to have NO CENSOR at all if I had to deal with him. So it's a decision on my part to not spend time with SS rather than spend time with him where I spend all of that time telling him what a worthless disgusting POS he is.
I adopted that logo. About
I adopted that logo. About time , none around them
But then I got him panting my ear drums with :
She promised to change
She and I talked
She's not angry now
She told me she'll be respectful
You won't extend a fig limb to them
It's you that doesn't want nothing to do with them p.s amen right
People get tired of being angry
You have to forgive them
P.s It seems it doesn't
P.s
It seems it doesn't understand my approach about leaving the room if he mentions them
Or butting in to stop the convo.
He didn't want me to avoid invites from them to go bowling.
He was scornful looking when I said I'm not ready or I can't do it bc I'm too uptight.
He should know with I'm too uptight that means I could slap someone perhaps.
I decided to maybe , just maybe try one more time.
Since this Easter incident he said I don't blame you if you tell me I told you so.
Believe me my skin was crawling when I got off the motorcycle at his dad's house.
I talked him a lot Sunday
He is so upset about what happened. And I told him we need to set adult rules for adult children bc it's the end of the rope about this
Manipulating situation
Well, I know behind my back
Well, I know behind my back he pays stuff. I know he gives them money.
And I've given him the right I guess. Because I have raised Cain about how that's why they are spoiled.
In reality, when you put people first all the time , that's why you'll always be second to them.
Told DH he is nothing but a doormat to his kids and that's its him who lets his daughter run her mouth in front of me.
I told DH if he feels up for it he should ask my daughters if they'd dare to disrespect my relationship to my DH .
I said you'd see some wild facials and hear stuttering, with a blurting of " I'd never cross my mom "
Ha
I'm sure SD is getting her holy then ever now attitude from her BM . I kid you not, every time I meet or see one of DH friends they have a lot to say. Usually it's, that lady is a b**** , or she's psycho, or she treated him and those kids like shit, or he is so happy since he got rid of her.
I don't know why SD strives to imitate her BM attitude and big mouth.
I was also told BM practically yells over people so no one can talk.
And for a fact that is exactly what SD does to us and everyone at the holidays . She yells for attention and demand no one else gets a word in .
She was so loud one holiday a lady and me had to squint and shake our heads.
That's insecurity to a high level. And she followed me around the room every time I tried to speak to someone. She kept literally jumping in 4 separate conversations. Each time I'd walk away she'd follow to control the next.
I personally think she's psycho like her mother .
And it's not up to me to teach her manners. Which I can. Ugh