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My car? Really?

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Submitted by sickofbs8 on Fri, 01/29/2016 - 3:11pm

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I am just stunned. I found out that SD21 is trying to get my car that daddy drives. Honestly? I can't even imagine. I knew she wanted something when she brought baby clothes for my daughter. That is a bit more than I expected. Sadly, it has already been promised. Shaking my head. It makes me sick!

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Submitted by luv2luv on Fri, 01/29/2016 - 3:13pm

Promised to her or someone else? If it's your car, your husband has no right to promise it to anyone without consulting with you first

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Submitted by ItsGrowingOld on Fri, 01/29/2016 - 3:36pm

What??? Are you saying your husband is giving the car you own to one of his daughters? Did he buy it from you?

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Submitted by Exjuliemccoy on Sat, 01/30/2016 - 2:11pm

I once overheard my DH and FIL discussing which skid should be given my classic muscle car on their sixteenth birthday. I never said a word, just sold the car.

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Submitted by sickofbs8 on Sat, 01/30/2016 - 9:20pm

I was angry when I wrote this. We had already offered to sell it to my daughter for a reasonable price. It was mine before we were together. Apparently his daughter is trying to go behind my back and get him to give it to her. Who does that? She sees us rarely and I knew she had been being nice recently...but really? My car? Anyway, he didn't have the nads to tell her the truth so he told her he doesn't know what we are doing with the car when we replace it. I'm livid! Man up!

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Submitted by sickofbs8 on Sat, 01/30/2016 - 9:23pm

Honestly she lives like 3 miles from us for the last year and she has bothered to see him like 6 times and most of those were to collect a gift or get a free out to dinner. My daughter and her son are here willingly for no gain 4 times a week. Just presumptuous to even dare ask daddy what we are doing with my car. No business. I don't go around sneakily asking that of anyone. I'm appalled.

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Submitted by sickofbs8 on Wed, 02/10/2016 - 11:38am

In the meantime it was promised to be sold (not given) to my daughter. He agreed...and now SD21 wants to know if my daughter is getting it. None of her business what I do with my belongings...

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Submitted by ctnmom on Thu, 02/11/2016 - 9:33am

What's the issue? It's not his car!!! Just ignore the two of them and sell it to your DD!!

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Submitted by sandye21 on Thu, 02/11/2016 - 3:00pm

I know what you are getting at and it has more to do with your DH's lack of balls than SD's brazen attitude. My DH has told so many lies or has led people to believe something that isn't true to make himself look bigger, better and richer. For the first 20+ years of our marriage we lived in a house that I paid for before we got married. He did all sorts of things like telling contractors they could dump waste on the property or telling a logger he didn't have to clean up the stumps and limbs. He got miffed but I finally had to tell him to NOT make decisions or promises on my behalf. You don't want to make your DH feel bad but there comes a limit. I like Sally's idea. DH is the one who led her to believe something that wasn't true. He should be responsible for telling SD why she couldn't have the car.

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Submitted by sickofbs8 on Mon, 02/15/2016 - 10:47am

I don't think there is any way that he could just give it to her. But my big irritant is that he led her to believe he doesn't know what WE decided. Eventually she will find out for sure. She seems to be mad just the same. So might as well tell her the truth. Be mad in one big fell swoop... and get over it princess. I think she feels entitled as his oldest child. She was displaced as my BD is over a year older than her. She is of the mindset that she is the one in charge. My daughter didn't ask. I discussed with my husband and we agreed we should offer to sell it to my BD. He knows full well the why and the what. Just doesn't want to fess up. Sad to me. His daughter is manipulative and will withhold seeing him or bringing her baby over to see him. So that will fix us. Doesn't hurt me a bit. Couldn't care less. In fact less contact = more peace.