Ok do I'm really trying to get in the hang of disengagement for my sanity (kinda hard when your skids live with you full time) and I think I failed. SD15 asked to spend a night out and I told her to ask her father. Boy was she pissed because she knew he wasn't going to answer her. He doesn't like for her to spend a night at anyone's house (she's a little fast if you know what I mean). So when I told her to ask her dad, he turns it around and had her ask me. So I told her you know what, yes, go ahead. I knew that wasn't what he wanted me to say, but I didn't care. It was supposed to be his decision not mine. So he goes, what made you say yes (in a questioning tone, kinda undermining what I said) and I said well you were beating around the bush and not giving her an answer so I answered it for you. Now he has an attitude. Oh well. Maybe he should've said something. Right now, the house is extra quiet without her constant whining. I'm happy. I myay have failed trying to disengage but whatever, she's out the house and I feel good. Trust me if you read my backstory, you'd smile with content too.