There is nothing wrong with providing differently for different children. It happens in intact initial families all of the time. It is often the case that the resources available during the early years of elder children are fewer than the resources available during the early and all years of younger children.

Do not sweat any differences in support or in how you raise your own children compared to how your Skids are supported and raised.

As for your mom, she is naive. That is neither good nor bad it is just a fact of your mom's perspective.

Take care of yourself and raise your children as insulated from the poor choices of your DH's prior spawning practices as possible. If your DH can't be and equity life partner to you and be as diligent about protecting his youngest children from the toxic facts of he existence of his elder children then I suggest you consider being far more selective with who you choose to meld your gene pool with.

IMHO of course.

I love my kids more than my ss. But I do make an effort to even things out.

Dont feel bad about your comments, they were ok.
Im starting to see that this forum has some over sensitive people in it, and they are generally bio parents themselves.

Just so you dont feel alone, I feel the same way.

Now yes its true the dogs are no more biologically mine, but they will not stab me in the back, need very little to be happy, and are generally happy, and full of gratitude 95% of the time.

I didnt bother reading many of the other comments that were back to you but a BIO is different also, I know it would be different for me because its BLOOD! and of my genes

Dont beat yourself up to much