Oh yes. The side of the blended family equation that has the most complete knowledge of all elements of the CO and any applicable supplemental rules and regulations ahs a distinct advantage in the blended family dynamic.

We used this to our advantage for the entire 17+ years of our live under a CO. This is what allowed us to protect the SKid from the shallow and polluted end of his gene pool and to keep the Sperm Clan pummeled into submission.

Enjoy beating her about the head and shoulders with the rolled up copy of the parenting plan. }:)

Maybe I'm just used to dealing with a more aggressive BM, but won't she just do this to your DH when it's his turn to have Easter? I mean I'm all for BMs getting what they deserve especially when they are the ones who made/dictated the CO in the first place. It just seems to me that yall will take away her Easter using the Spring Break clause, but next year will be your DHs Easter so can't she just do it back to him?

I would not mention it at all until after the kids are picked up. Maybe even not at all. Just not be home or available Saturday when she expects the kids. When she screams a simple "please read the custody order" and ignore the rest.

But don't give her a reason to not release the kids in the first place. Ignore any reference to Easter directly to you and act surprised if/when the kids bring it up.

The BM in me cringes when I read your post because you are getting so much joy out of this. I was a very involved step mother for 9 years and I did all the parenting because my now ex is a mentally ill, abusive asshole and spent his visitation with his children laying on the couch doing nothing. My ex has pretty limited visitation with our son who is 7. He couldn't tell you what the decree says and has given up most holidayS ( this easter included) because he is lazy and doesn't want to make the holiday for the kids.

Now if he were dating you he would say that I was evil and controlling and keep him from his child. ( I heard this about BM1 while I was dating/married to him and I can tell you now this was not the case) His visitation is what it is based on his behavior. Sometimes we are told one thing as the step mom and then we feel the urge to rescue our husband's from a woman who may not be what we think she is.

Please don't think I am saying that this is your case BUT I am telling you that it is your husband's job to figure these things out not you. It is his decree and he should be the one who knows it not you. I will tell you that holidays are important to me, I am the one who bought the gifts, planned the activities and dyed the eggs. My ex had BS7 for Thanks giving and he served him a store bough dinner in his underwear and didn't even bother to shower that day. They were alone in his dirty apartment...my son was thrilled to find out he doesn't have to go to h is dad's for Easter. I am in the process of moving and lots of things are packed up but we will celebrate Christ's rebirth clean and wearing pants as we eat dinner.