Just wanted to hear your opinions on the situation since DH's response is making me doubt myself...

I'm 9 months pregnant. SS14 and SD12 were here for the weekend. I was coming down the stairs with my hands full of dirty dishes and about 5 steps from the bottom my feet flew out from under me, cartoon style. I landed equally on my head and my back and hit so hard that my head actually cracked the stair. I blacked out for just a moment and then started freaking out worrying about the baby.

SD12 was in the office right at the bottom of the stairs when this happens. She literally leaps over my body and bounds up the stairs to call BM to tell her that I fell down the stairs. DH was very sweet, called the midwife and took care of me while making dinner.

I very rarely sit with the skids for meals as its so hard to bite my tongue and watch the disrespect but I made an exception because I didn't want to make an extra trip up the stairs with my plate. Half way through dinner, DH asks me if I've felt the baby move since the fall. Before I can even answer, SD says "Well this is appropriate dinner conversation!" in possibly the snottiest voice I've heard come out of her. DH actually surprised me by standing up to her just a little saying "Well yes, when there's a pregnant lady at the table, it is." And I answered like she hadn't even spoken.

Neither skid said anything else about the fall. They never asked if the baby (who they are supposedly so excited for) was ok. BM did call DH to make sure her babies were safe. Why, I'm not sure. When DH and I talked about this after the skids left, I said that this was an example of why they can't be around when I might go into labor and why I feel so uncomfortable when they're here. They simply have no concern for me or this baby and they can't stand the attention not being 100% on them. He says that they were both very worried and afraid and just didn't know how to react. Seems to me like a bunch of bullshit since I know toddlers who would have responded better. Also, I can't count how many times I've helped and comforted and neosporined these kids when they've fallen down so you'd think they'd know how to be compassionate.

Am I wrong for feeling like I'm being spied and tattled on to BM? Am I wrong to expect either skid to say something like "Are you ok?" or "Is the baby ok?" even if its just to DH? Should I be concerned about these kids being around the baby? The callousness of the situation just makes me worry about what would happen if my kid got hurt while they were around. Curious to hear what you all think.