Planting seeds of doubt...this is popcorn worthy!
SheSloth got screamed at last night! It was an awesome show, I do have to say.
It all started going down at 11 p.m. This is typical in our house...if there is going to be a blow up, it is going to happen when I need to go to sleep and when I have to be up really early the next morning! Regardless...DH gets a TEXT from SheSloth (who is in her room), "I need to be at the homecoming pep rally tomorrow night by 6". DH hits the roof! He goes to the kitchen, and demands SheSloth come out and talk about this. DH lays into her how he is tired about finding out about everything last minute. He asks her when she knew about this pep rally, and SheSloth claims she didn't know until about an hour ago when the guard captain texted her with what they need to wear. DH starts in with her that he finds it really strange that he had two kids in the same high school over the course of the last 9 years (there was a break of one year in there between BD23 and BS19), one being in the very same band that SheSloth is in now with the very same director, and one being in football. NEVER in all that time have there been the communication issues that he is seeing with SheSloth!!! So what is it? The teachers aren't communicating any more, or is SheSloth not paying attention? SheSloth insists that she does pay attention, and that she really didn't know about the pep rally until about an hour ago.
Get your popcorn, coffee, wine, trail mix, etc...this is where it is getting ready to get good!!!!
So, DH starts asking SheSloth how she plans on getting to the school and back home again, because both he and I are supposed to be at praise team practice at church tonight. SheSloth says that she can probably get a friend to bring her home, and that she will just stay after up at the school because she has to help Art Club finish there banner for the pep rally tonight. WHAT?! You just said you just found out about the pep rally an hour ago!!! DH catches this, and says, "Wait a minute! I'm going to ask you again!!! When did you FIRST know about this pep rally tomorrow night?" SheSloth suddenly realizes that she got caught in a lie! "Well, I knew ABOUT it about 2 weeks ago, but I never got any of the details." At this point DH shakes his head, "So you are trying to tell me that you knew about this 2 weeks ago, and didn't bother to check with the guard captain or coach to see if you needed to be there AND you didn't bother to ask anyone in Art Club for the details?" More arguing back and forth at this point. DH is getting really ticked off at this point.
Conversation continues as DH tries to get more information about the pep rally...what is SheSloth doing and when, when will she be done, etc. Many of these questions go unanswered, as SheSloth says, "Well, I don't know what all I'm doing! I mean, I'm supposed to be doing something with ASL club, I'm supposed to be doing something with Art Club, and I'm supposed to be doing something with color guard...I don't know how this is going to work." PUT THE BRAKES ON! DH catches on to this, too. "You mean to tell me that THREE groups you are involved in at school are part of this pep rally and you somehow didn't get ANY information about dates, times, ANYTHING? IS YOUR HEAD STUCK THAT FAR UP YOUR ASS!" In other words, this is the point where the light goes on in DH's head, and he realizes that SheSloth has been flip-flopping her entire story about when she knew about this event (which we did verify on the school web site). LIES! SheSloth seriously didn't have anything to say at this point! I can't remember the last time I saw her completely speechless!
Conversation goes on about SheSloth not paying attention to anything, etc. DH asks about Winter Guard...does SheSloth have any information about that yet. She claims the captain is still planning the entire season...what events they will go to, etc. DH tells her, "Wait a minute...she can't do that! cannot sign you all up for anything...she isn't authorized to as it requires money for fees that the school pays...only the director and coach can sign you up!" This part of the converation goes on for about 15 minutes just by itself, as it goes from the guard captain is planning the whole thing to "Oh, well Mr. P gave her a list of the events he and the captain signed us up for, and she is supposed to go to their web sites and print off information for us." Hmmmm...that is very different than she is planning the whole season by herself! At this point, DH realizes that SheSloth may not have been quite honest with him about the guard captain, and most of the other things happening in guard...that SheSloth is just trying to stir up drama...and he tells her, "So I guess from here on out, I need to throw out at least half of what you tell me about guard!" SheSloth tries to argue that maybe she just isn't using the right words to describe things. Oh really?!
SheSloth I think is seriously this || close to having to quit guard! Best part of it, those seeds of doubt are not placed in DH's mind about things that SheSloth tells him! PRICELESS!!
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Your DH needs to tell her to
Your DH needs to tell her to resign. She can't be bothered to let him know about things,then she doesn't get to participate.
@GoAwayPlz and
@GoAwayPlz and dtsyblnd....Exactly! I was in marching band. BD23 was in marching band 4 years under this very same director. Marching season summer schedule would be handed out last week of school. Marching season schedule handed out during summer band (as some competition information wasn't finalized until June/July). Concert band schedules started going out in October (which included Christmas concerts).
BS19 was in football. Season schedules were mailed to every player's parent end of June! That include 2-a-day schedule for August, copy of the rule book, and letter from the head coach.
So SheSloth doesn't fool me with this crap that she isn't being told things until the last minute! She isn't paying attention, isn't communicating, etc.
@beaccountable...I agree completely! If I had say, I would tell her she isn't going...don't care if she gets in trouble with director or captain! I would make her come to praise team practice with me to make sure she doesn't go! But DH isn't as strict as I am.
I am laughing out loud at
I am laughing out loud at this. Sorry but it is so close to what we go through with skids. They never tell DH anything until the last minute and he believes them when they say they just found out. I've tried to tell him for a couple years that these things don't work that way. They are all planned and it's the kids that aren't doing their part by giving him the information.
I agree with others. She should be made to quit if she can't handle the responsibility of keeping DH informed.
We went through this as well.
We went through this as well. It was BM's way of running my DH around last minute and controlling our home. "Can you pick the kid up from xyz we didn't know until just now (9:30 PM night before)". I made him put an end to that by telling her he would no longer be running kids on her time and wouldn't do it on his time without a week in advance notice.
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I did guard...winter
I did guard...winter guard...drum corps...the lot of it, indoor outdoor teaching... our calendars were done and complete with dates and times before the season started, because your DH is right - you need to apply and put forth fees for shows and competitions, especially to make sure you have enough to compete in any form of championships, plus if there's school bus transportation! My parents treated it like a job though, once I had my schedule - we planned around it...I mean, I was in high school and if they were paying for me to do it - I was all in.
Homecoming is on the calendar
Homecoming is on the calendar when school lets out the year before. It has to be for the football schedule. This kid is disorganized as hell. She doesn't value anyone else's time and unfortunately your husband has showed her again and again, that his time is not valuable and she can tell him when she remembers. He needs to seriously make her miss one of these events and then maybe she will realize she needs to let him in on the schedule as soon as she has it.
Oh, I couldn't agree more!
Oh, I couldn't agree more! Just wish he had the balls to do it! However, he has yet to get that drastic with the girl!
I also agree she should be made to quit! Should have happened a long time ago. Most of the drama in guard I'm pretty sure she is the main antagonist! She has no respect for the officers, she thinks she is better than the other girls...sure, she puts on one of her fake acts at most events, but she has such disdain for all of them! One game, DH went down to let her know he was there. SheSloth was supposed to be practicing and stretching with the rest of the guard, but she instead was over chatting with other people! When the lieutenant told her to get over there to stretch, SheSloth had attitude with her and I could overhear her tell the friend that she was so tired of the officers trying to tell her what to do!
So yeah, I don't think she should be in guard at all! But...it isn't my call. So, I just refuse to help with the girl, and I've done pretty good to avoid her competitions this year.
yes, EVERYTHING school
yes, EVERYTHING school related is always scheduled a year out.
Just think how much money DH
Just think how much money DH would save if he didn't let SheSloth participate? Sure, she would be sitting around moping, but doesn't she do that anyway? She is such a liar. I told my DH years ago to start teaching SD19 disappointment so she would learn that not everyone would bow to her. I'll ket you know when DH takes his head out of the sand over here!
I just got 4 bags of pumpkin seeds, so that is my snack of choice for this show tonight! LOL
Ugh! So DH is skipping out on
Ugh! So DH is skipping out on praise team practice to go to the stupid pep rally!! It pisses me off! He tried to get me to go with him, and I told him I wasn't bailing on practice. The worship leader will not be happy, as that means we don't have a sound guy tonight! SheSloth is never going to learn!!!!
wow....that basically
wow....that basically completely negates the shit show from the night before.
Oh Can't, I am so sorry! I
Oh Can't, I am so sorry! I am pissed for you tonight.
~ Moon
I mean, I get why he went.
I mean, I get why he went. From some of the stuff he said last night, I don't think he completely trusts her to come straight home with a friend and not do anything stupid. So he went to bring her home. BUT that isn't how she will see it!! No, the way she sees it, she got dear daddy to break his plans again and make her the center of his life for another moment! Like I and many have said, she shouldn't have been allowed to go to the pep rally at all, but made to come with us to praise team practice and left to sit and wait on us! This still worked out in her favor, so she will learn nothing, and next time it will be the same crap!
Yup, Sally...similar to the
Yup, Sally...similar to the rules with bios. Even my ex had to comply with similar rules. I got tired of driving all the way to his house to drop off BS19 (because the man for some reason could not come get him), only to be told, "Oh, I can't take him this weekend" or be told by the girlfriend "He's not here. He's out of town for work" (which I always found funny, because he always claimed lack of work for his reason for not paying his child support). I would then have to deal with a crying child all the way home, because he wanted to see his dad (BS19 was only about 5-9 at the time, after 9, my ex disappeared completely, and DH adopted him). I got to the point I told my ex, "Look, if you plan on having your visitation, you need to call me by the time I go to bed the Wednesday before! If you don't, I will assume no visit. That way, the kid won't have to get his hopes up, and I can actually plan a weekend!" After that, my ex called maybe 3 times for BS19, and then....POOF!
With my bios, there were a couple of exceptions to the rule. I mean, some Friday nights, they were having so much fun with their friends, that they would want to hang out after the game. As long as it was a friend I knew well, and the friend's parents (which I also knew well) were there to say it was okay, I would let my kids go spend the night. But they knew the requirements for those last minute changes to happen, and also knew if there were prior plans, they were not going to be changed...had to be weekends we didn't already have anything going.
Any on the East Coast for
Any on the East Coast for SD13? She lies all of the time.......