Skids given sleeping pills by BM

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:jawdrop: DH just called me at work saying that the boys were given 3 sleeping pills a night by their BM :jawdrop: He is beyond pissed off right now and I'm just in shock :O The boys came to us mid November last year and the youngest (12) is having a hard time sleeping at night. DH asks what he does when he goes to bed because he wakes up with huge bags under his eyes. SS12 says "I asked mom if she can get me more sleeping pills to help me sleep." DH asked what the heck he was talking about and SS12 said "yeah, when we lived with mom, she gave us 3 sleeping pills every night". DH asked how long this went on for and he said months :jawdrop: Now, I've never called CPS on anyone in my life but BM still has one kid who is 7 years old and I got DH to ask his youngest son if she gave them to their sister (not DH's) as well and he said yes!!!! What do I do?!? Right now BM is in the hospital because she wrecked her liver from drinking too much and the girl is staying with her dad. I don't know if we should just stay right out of it or if DH should call the girls dad and tell him or if he should call CPS or what :? Is that not child abuse?!? I would NEVER give ANY child a sleeping pill, let alone 3!!! Do we say something or just leave it be?!? DH texted BM and asked WTF she was thinking giving those to the boys and she denies it all! She said she never gave them any pills or any kind. I know these boys aren't lying. I knew she liked to party but never imagined that she'd stoop to this low!!! I don't know if we're flying off the handle here or if we should just be happy we got the boys when we did and stay quiet about it. Any advice is very much welcomed!

No. It's not melatonin! Our

No. It's not melatonin! Our BM is the scum of the earth! She's flat out denying giving them ANY pills!! Why would she do that if it was something natural like melatonin?!? The skids would sleep in until 4 in the afternoon sometimes! I know melatonin doesn't do that! And 3 pills at a time?!? Just doesn't sound right.

Yeah. The boys said that she

Yeah. The boys said that she started giving them the pills when they couldn't sleep cause of the music (she was partying). Then they had trouble falling asleep without them and have been on them ever since! The oldest said that its a prescription that his mom was given by the dr?!? Idk. All I know is melatonin is not a prescription and be bought OTC. I'm just going to stay out of it all like I usually do! DH says he wants to let the girls dad know at least as he's been watching the girl for the past week.

Ok thanks! I'm just going to

Ok thanks! I'm just going to stay right out of it. I just don't understand why BM would deny it all together! And no kid should even be given melatonin every night for sleeping. It should only be used once in a while. Not for months straight. I'm just glad we got the boys when we did.

Daddy should contact child

Daddy should contact child protective services and let them sort out what was taken. Even if nothing else it will put the BM on notice that she's on thin ice.

I never dreamed that children were ever given anything for sleep except in extreme temporary situations such as the death of a parent or sibling. Literally that bad.

DH boys live with us. Their

DH boys live with us. Their younger sister (not DH's) loves with their mom. BM has been admitted to the hospital for the last 2 weeks or so, so the boys sister has been staying with her dad. I heard that the girls dad is now going for custody of the girl now (we just got the boys about 3 months ago). This is why I'm reluctant to call CPS: 1. We already have full custody of the boys... But then there's the girl to consider But shes stauing with her dad at the moment so no ones in any immediate danger. 2. She already has enough files and complaints with CPS that if she gets one more the girl will get taken away. 3. I feel bad for all that BM is going through right now with her health and having her boys being taken away from her (even though everything she does is self inflicted). 4. I hate drama. If BM ever found out who called CPS on her all hell would break loose (not that there's much she can do at this point).

The more we have these boys, the more we realize that we should have taken them earlier they've been woken up in the middle of the night by cops looking for BM's flavour of the week, they've been left at home for days with no phone, they've been moved around on average 5 times a year! It's crazy!! I don't know how people can chose to live like that! My DH and I are the complete opposite of that! We don't move, we don't party (unless its a special occasion like weddings or a best friends birthday In my opinion, we are boring! Lol. But stable and educated. I'm going to talk to DH and let him do whatever he chooses, but I will read him all of your comments and opinions as well

I agree with you. I am all

I agree with you. I am all for holistic and natural remedies and if it is melatonin I told DH it's not that bad. At least it's not actual sleeping pills, but we don't think that's the case. I put off the oldest sleeping in so late to being a teen and no one waking him up, but sometimes he'd still be sleeping when we picked him up at 4! The youngest always had huge bags under his eyes. I don't see how/why all the kids need to take any sleep aids when they aren't diagnosed with ADHD or autism :? And their mom is denying giving them any pills, period. I know the boys aren't making this up because they thought it was normal and wanted to be given these pills. I don't think it would be in their system anymore as they've been living with us full time.

Youngest SS had a speech

Youngest SS had a speech problem when he was small. He couldn't talk normally until he was about 5 or 6. DH said that when BM was pregnant with the youngest, that she drank once that he knows of for sure. They were broken up at the time and one of his friends called him and told him to get down to this party because she was drunk :jawdrop: Can speech problems be caused by drinking? I know she won't go anywhere, and we truly do want the boys to have a good relationship with their mom, but how do you encourage a relationship with someone like that?!?