His exact words were lil_lady is a parent in my home. The things that happen here are non of your business... he also had some more choice words for her which I don't remember.

That is correct I feel the same way just wasn't sure if my vision was clouded with everything else that she has done.

That is both of our reaction BM has had plenty of opportunity to be a normal human being and she hasn't she goes on these streaks of wanting to be nice and sit down a "talk about the situation" last was a couple months ago. FH told me one day she lost that when we broke it off she does not need to know how I feel about something. I love him so much when he says things like that ;). Of course this is the first time she has been so set on me not being anywhere in the picture for these talks.... my guess is she is loosing control and knows it.

Thank you! It is hard to tell right now I will admit I have definitely experienced some heightened anger and emotion :P. Trying not to let it get in the way of clear decisions... sometimes I need to get a second opinion though!

Thank you! I may just show him this...

I don't FH does the correspondence and lets me add what I like to it then he looks it over and sends it. Thank god I don't speak with BM any longer! It is nice however to be able to discuss it with FH figure out a action plan then agree to something. He carries it all out though.... better for our son aswell I have a short temper to begin with my fuze has been shortened with this pregnancy lol.

What was more addressed (by FH) was that our baby was not her business but if she did honestly feel there was a problem that I would be in attendance. But for the time being we would address any issues in our home. He does not feel that she should be addressing most of these issues but more feels that she should let him know and we should address them in our home. But again it was all FH I don't communicate with BM anymore.

I have been thinking about tracking this book down I am supposed to be studying for a registration exam I have for my practioner licence this week... Almost over then I can put more time into this stuff! There has been Passing lol not a surprise with this woman. We are not married yet we are both in agreeance this will happen but want to wait until we can afford the wedding and rings we want. For now FH ;)... should get back to the books but I look forward to checking in and seeing what the rest of steptalk world has to say!

This is something I will be doing from now on BM has been resistant to email communication because she knows she flies of the handle. We wont be having one... I just second guessing our opinions I guess. I find I have been doing a lot of that with this pregnancy since my emotions are difinately in full swing!

ummm pretty sure we just became best friends you and I lol.

We have had talks with SD and will continue to do so. FH has shut it down at least I thought he did when I read his email. I was more wondering if we where not being reasonable because BM still seems to think this is a brilliant idea even though FH has been rock solid on this not happening without myself there. I think next exchange email he will just wright it off completely and be done with it! And yes this is the BM that wanted to come to my ultrasound and tell SD about our pregnancy with just FH and not me!

BM somehow convinced a judge to side with her and she is allowed in the CO to move the kids for her schooling needs... Sheesh way to go family court I am sure uprooting two young children from their home of 3 years with extended family is in their best interest. As is changing a 50/50 access agreement to pretty much zero time with dad. The judge said he had concerns with BM having to travel and what the impact would be on the kids. So he gave BM primary access with generous and reasonable access to FH, now BM figures this is her ticket to only allow him access 6 days a month. Anyways we have since fired our last lawyer and are headed straight back to court hopefully sooner rather then later. That judgement was based on BM moving right away which she has not she is still humming and hawing as to whether to do it. Meanwhile sticking to the CO she got with the understanding that she would be moved an hour away by Oct. She does have to much power unfortunately it was court ordered power! FH does however have joint custody so he has been able to argue that generous access must be agreed upon and he does have a say with the schedule being that he has joint access. Therefor he has a legal right to have say with important matters such as his kids being able to have a healthy relationship with their father.

FH has already done this there is most definitely no phone calls. I personally do not understand how some people think that is the least bit acceptable. There is also no texting I don't appreciate texting at all... he either wants to play to his exwifes whims or he wants to be with me (this is something I layed down before my pregnancy). BM still texts even though he does not text back, I guess it is to complicated for her to understand. Even though she has been reminded for the last 6 months that emails are the only communication that will be replied to. FH also will only reply to emails on exchange days right now that is once every two weeks. FH only addresses subjects that need to be addressed and have to do with the skids. It is good aswell because that gives him and I time to cool down and discuss as a couple what needs to be addressed and what does not. FH always wants to hear my opinion since his situation clouds his judgment. Right now we are working with his attorney as to what should be addressed and what should not. We are trying not to be ignorant and ignore things and over explain. This is because we have every intention of going to court and making the point that he is an interested and caring father. Whom has done nothing but try to work with BM to parent and have his children's better interest in mind! I guess this is why I am amazed that she is this delusional still. I think to be honest she is starting to realize she has lost control and is trying everything she can to try to prove to herself that she still has this imaginary family she has set up in her mind. You are right on the money with that!

BM got approval from the court to move the kids to a city an hour away. Originally FH wanted to fight this and fought to have the kids stay in the town we are in. The judge felt that having mom travel during her days of having the kids would be more damaging then allowing BM to move and have dad see them less. However up until that point (in aug) parents had a 50/50 agreement. Basically a real crappy call by the judge. Now BM has still not moved even though she was supposed to and is still trying to stick to the judgment she got even though she is living in the same town! We have since fired our old lawyer and got a new one we hope to be in court again before she has a chance to move and hopefully get a 50/50 order again. To be honest not moving is not an option this would leave FH only seeing his kids 5 times a month... If she wants to take it as him following her so be it. Those kids deserve a dad and FH deserves to get 50/50 back. I honestly doubt we will have to move with what BM has pulled with taking the judgment then not moving. A judge is going to look at that and see right through any excuse she has. She is going to look like an unstable liar who has no regard for her children.

No she does not want to discuss moving without me and he has absolutely no intention of discussing it... If she wants to move he has already told her he just needs to know sooner rather then later because I am due in March. He does not want me to have to move 9 months pregnant! I am sure that really chapped her ass that it is his only reasoning. As for how I feel it was my idea this move is court ordered and the only way that we can get a chance at gaining 50/50 access again is if we do that. We are still going to take her to court again with a different lawyer and hopefully get a different judgment. These poor kids have had 50/50 then a pre trial judge went and ordered BM to have primary access. BM has taken that and power tripped now for the last 2 months FH is lucky if he sees them 5 times in a month.

Phone calls wont be done he does not think they are appropriate neither do I! With this woman is psychotic and we need everything documented. Emails only FH has no desire to her or hear her voice and really has finally gotten her to realize she can not just text or call when she feels the need.

The meeting she wanted to have without me there was with SD to talk about her "feelings". He has already denied the request until she can come up with an agenda and we feel it is needed and to boot I will be there. She was basically told... we will be handling this in our home if things don't get better then we will consider having you over to have a discussion with FH and lil_lady and SD. She is still pushing for it so I was asking do people think it is appropriate or needed? I was starting to question my own beliefs being that we are dead in the middle of it and just sick of her BS lol. Not to mention I am so angry and emotional right now I don't know which way is up half the time lol.

Mediation has been done with NO SUCCESS we have already been in court. Mediation with this woman is waist of time she is so delusional. She has suggested mediation again to figure out access FH is going to court he wants to take her for all that she has. The only reason he is sending an email on exchange days only is because he wants a solid record of communicating for his kids sake that is the only engagement he has with her. Lol trust me there is no emotional ties at all with this woman.

lol thank you for the confirmation!