What would you say to the BM if you could?
The BM in my situation is causing a lot of problems lately so I would say:
Hey lady why don't you go out and get a job if you want all those expensive gifts for your kid. We can't afford all those I-Pod this that you want to blow your money on, more like my husband's money. Hey every man you meet you like them for their money. He takes care of his child money wise, you get child support every month, you have nothing to complain about!
And why do you hate me so much? I've done nothing to you! Get over yourself! You hate me because my husband got a freaking backbone and said no to every scheme to spend his money on stuff you don't really need! Spoiling children with things is not the way to show love!!!
Stop putting your child in the middle of adult issues, its not fair to her. Stop making her move around so much. Why do you bring in so many different men? How about putting your child's need above your own!
You are such a liar! You never had cancer, you just said that in mediation to make my husband and the mediator feel sorry for you. Hey it didn't work, he still got join custody! How dare you lie about something that my grandfather really had and my friend died of! You really are evil! Grow up and leave me alone!!! Don't take out your unhappiness on me and my husband anymore!
Hmmmmm.... we have a somewhat
Hmmmmm.... we have a somewhat decent relationship in that there is none sooo... something I would say to her is that be happy with what you get. $600 a month and kick ass health/dental/vision insurance for your children is more than enough. Now that you're dating and living with a man that has a psychotic ex and is in the middle of a financially draining and messy divorce involving children, maybe you'll get a taste of your own medicine and see how your actions affect us. I hope that medicine has a bitter taste. Oh and do us the courtesy of keeping your shitty opinions about my husband to yourself. I've never said an unkind word about you around your children because I know it's not right. Gain some maturity and start doing the same.
"If you care so much about
"If you care so much about your kids, MOVE CLOSER and actually be apart of their lives!"
(BM moved an hour away from her kids to be closer to the man she cheated on my boyfriend with)
I wouldn't waste my time or
I wouldn't waste my time or energy, as nothing I said would resonate with her.
If she were to hear me with her heart, I would tell her that she should want a better life for her daughter than she herself had, and she should help her to get that instead of teaching her to rely on handouts and men.
Well I did once and it blew
Well I did once and it blew up on SD indirectly. I lost it once and told BM ALL of what I thought of her. Felt good too.....until BM started yelling at SD for opening her mouth. SD had no clue her mom and I had even been texting. Duh! I would never drag a child into an adult situation. Anywayso SD was hurt and confused by her mom .
I realized that by being nasty to BM caused BM to hurt SD so it was in all reality my fault for hurting my SD. I vowed to stay away from BM at that moment and strive to do it for SD.
Remember. .....most of us on here are here because we aren't dealing with healthy minded BM's. A normal minded person wouldn't lash out at their own child because they themselves got called out!