Wow, just wow! I am so sorry you are dealing with that! I love the idea of setting up cameras. Your DH will not be able to believe what his kid says when he has the proof right in front of his own eyes!

LOL - have had a similar situation with OH not believing what his princess is up to.

He was all outraged last week when she thought my kids had been in her room, which they had, they (we) go in there after every skid visit to see what the little thief has taken this time - always something.

Of course I can't tell him that (well actually I did tell him the thief part, that he has no right to be outraged at their invasion of HER privacy when we all know she is in their rooms when they aren't here AND that she takes stuff - this has been an ongoing issue)

He was still outraged for his princess, and I said well you stop her doing it and I will stop my girls doing it. He said he had told her not to go into the other kids rooms without permission so it was done. (insert eye roll, of course, you just have to tell her and she OBEYS you. And there's a pig flying past my window as we speak OH)

Cut to this Wednesday night. I am taking my kids to dancing, so it will just be him and skids in the house for most of the evening. So I set a little trap. I put sticky tape on the top corners of their bedroom doors. So that it wasn't noticeable, but *I* would know if the door had been opened.

Which they both were. Got home, went straight upstairs and checked and sure enough the tape was pulled off of both doors - just stuck on the frames.

I went down and explained to OH that I knew she had been in their rooms again, he doubted (after all he TOLD her not to LOL) I then told him about the tape.

I think he gets it now. That Princess is going to do whatever she wants regardless of what Daddy tells her.

Cameras are a great idea. That is my next plan. To install cameras up there. And WHOEVER gets caught on them (his or mine) will be in trouble - yes mine have been told to stay out too.... I will still go in and check over her room though.

What is it with daddies defending their daughters?? I also use the term "his little princess" lol I also have sd who makes up lies to my hubby as well as her mom. So one time I put my phone on record & played it back to both hubby & bio mom infront of sd to show what had been said.. hubby listened with (somewhat) of an open mind.. bio mom's response was "ya I know, she's a pre teen".. and even after hearing the convo, no punishment was given by either bio parent for the way she spoke to me, or the lies shetold. GGetting really old!!!

My SD is nine. I met the BD when she was almost five....at first our relationship was awesome. 2 years later I moved in and things fell apart. She now speaks to me as rude as she possibly can, but only when Daddy is not around. When I speak to BD about it he either tells me I must be misinterpreting her or that she would not do that "she's too Nieve". IMAGINE.... My teenage children dislike her and refuse to come visit. In April I got my own apartment to see if we could figure things out...or better yet...he needed to figure out how things were going to work...parenting wise and BM wise.....don't get me started on her.

I find the SD evil and smart enough to know exactly what she's doing.....

Sometimes I wonder what's wrong with me....I love kids - not his though! I think things may be unfixable!

I find this extremely sad...I love him!
All men my age have kids...I will never be with a man again...I have resorted to understanding I will be alone forever.