SS6 has been attending counseling sessions for behavior issues and so far the counselor is just allowing SS6 to talk freely. She asks questions and SS6 talks, and boy does he love to talk.

Lately we have noticed that BM is trying to strut her stuff and exert her power, power which she doesn't have, more than
usual. I've had to give DH a piece of my mind about him acquiescing to her authority when she has no authority and he has turned into something of a gentle attack dog about it.

For example, after SS first session last week, DH text to let BM know that SS would be seeing a counselor so that she wouldn't have to hear about it from SS. BM called on a rant about DH not including her and blah blah blah, DH cut BM off, told BM that he doesn't have to include her and then DH gave BM the name and number of the counselor. Before my chat with DH, he would have listened to BM whining, probably apologized a few times and then felt bad about it for a few days.

Well, when DH took SS for his second visit, the counselor was out front waiting for DH. She had a story to tell. Apparently BM called the counselor and told the counselor that BM never consented to the sessions. The counselor told BM, get this, "ma'am, I've read his court order and nowhere does it say that he has to get your permission". (BOOM!!!!!!!)

BM then went on to say "BM needs a copy of whatever notes or report the counselor makes"...and the counselor replied "ma'am your attorney is welcome to file the necessary paperwork to get what they need". (BOOM!!!!!!!)

BM ignored that, because as DH and I know, BM parents paid for an Atty to represent BM at the initial hearing, but they weren't willing to keep him on, at least not up until this point.

So BM continues spouting fire through the phone telling counselor, "I have a right to know what is being said and I should be able to talk to you too just like DH can" to which the counselor replied "you are more than welcome to come into the office, I'll even schedule you an appointment right now, our fees are $$ and we accept most forms of insurance". (BOOM!!!!!!!)

At this BM was so upset that she said "thank you" and hung up.

I told DH that BM just proved our point for us. BM is hardly concerned about the kids, because if she were she would have called the counselor to say "I have these concerns and wanted to know if you will be addressing these things". Instead BM called expecting the counselor to bend to BM will and reprimand DH for not consulting BM.

I laughed so darn hard while listening to DH tell me this story. But then it got better.

I've always felt like BM struggled with showing interest in the kids, mostly because before she knew I was in the picture, she left DH claiming not to have wanted a family, and would send messages to say just that to DH phone. Once she knew about me, her interest in the kids suddenly picked up. She would call the house and ask the kids "what are you eating" when the would answer you would think from her response that they were eating filet mignon and every night because no matter what they said she'd respond with 'whhhhaaaaaaaaattttttt' or 'oooohhhhhmyyyyyyyygooooooosh!' or 'wooooooowww are you kidding'....it took everything I had not to bowl over with laughter, I eventually started leaving the room whenever she would call.

Apparently during his last session SS6 was talking about differences between DH and BM and he told the counselor "DH is more fun that BM, DH tells jokes, laughs at my jokes, and gives me fake high fives on the head but BM doesn't do anything funny, she laughs too hard at my jokes that aren't very funny and when the jokes are funny she just says 'whhhhaaaaaaaaattttttt' or 'oooohhhhhmyyyyyyyygooooooosh!' or 'wooooooowww are you kidding'. :jawdrop:

HA! Even the 6 year old can tell that BM reaction isn't right. BM tries so darn hard but even he can see that its wrong. I told DH that I hope the counselor puts SS exact words down for BM to read. She'll blow her top I'm sure.