i think it's a great idea. you're just moving them to make room for you.

Get yourself a slew of fridge magnets and start attaching grocery lists, bills, coupons and other crap in front of SS's pictures.

That's what I do.

Ya I agree if you are going to move the pictures to a picture wall that's great idea. If you were just putting them away to be spiteful then Id think you have deeper issues as others have suggested. This is a place for ladies to vent and have the claws out so to speak cause we cant go telling our DH or anyone else that, our SKids suck lol.

I see nothing wrong with that. I absolutely HATED the 2 photos of stepdevil14 in our family frame above the couch. In one, her arms are crossed and she's got this nasty scowl on her face. The 2nd she's pouting. All because she didn't get SOMETHING she wanted that day.

Finally, after DH had gotten fed up with the kid hurting him over and over, he replaced those photos himself and I did the happy dance. NO more shitty ass scowling pics of Sd in my house! YAY

I don’t think it’s appropriate for her to hang up pictures of non-family members (her mother and her mother’s other kids) on the fridge in your home. I would not allow that either. If I saw SD put up a picture like that, I would take it down and put it in her bedroom. The fridge is not the place for it. I like the idea of making her some sort of photo board that she can have in her bedroom just for that purpose.

In MY house if I pay for the damn fridge then only what I want on it will be on it..plain and simple. }:)

IMO, you have every right to take down any and all pictures off of your fridge. I did it. SS didn't like it but he can put as many up in his room as he wants.

My motto: Don't put that crap on my fridge unless you want to cook and clean the kitchen yourself.

Katielee, I think your phrase about dealing with BM a lot lately is probably making you sick and tired of anything related to her.

Boy do I know how you feel. It seems like the more I have to deal with BM and her nonsense the less patience I have with anything SS related.

I think you are trying to deal with this STep business without ruffling too many feathers (specifically your DH's) but you are being hurt in the process.

Go ahead make that house your home too but as others have said try not to do anything for spite.

BTW, I still think the REAL issue is your DH not setting any boundaries for BM. So maybe you should start having some long discussions with him about how you clearly feel and come to an agreement regarding BM's boundaries.

If he is not willing to do that maybe you should re-think your relationship with him.

OP, I don't think you are being wrong at all and I don't think you are intentionally trying to stir up drama. You are trying to make it your home and that is very understandable. In my previous relationship, my ex had a daughter that 18 when we started dating. She was the worst little mini wife. There had not been a BM in the picture for years, every girlfriend he had, she ran off with her insane antics, and it was terrible. She had decorated the entire house and it was pretty much a shrine to her. It was like she was a dog pissing on every available spot in the house to mark her territory that way when his girlfriends came over, they would get the point that she was the woman of the house. The mantel, all pictures of her, the bookshelves, all her and her Dad, the fridge, all her and her friends, the back end of the counter that backed up to a wall, sports pics, homecoming pics, his dresser in HIS room, baby pics of her, it was just nuts. She did not live there when we began dating. She was in college. She would come home on the weekends some, but once I moved in it was every single weekend.

I did a thorough cleaning and rearranging that is for sure and felt like I had every right to do so. It was almost creepy the way it was. I felt her eyes on me everywhere! I cleaned off the fridge. Put up a magnetic calendar and notepad. I cleaned off the mantel and put up a few decorative items. I cleaned off the bookshelves and put, you know, books on them, with pictures intermingled here and there. Some of her, some of us, some of my family. The high school pics, sports pics, homecoming pics, I put in her room. The baby pics, he had an antique curio cabinet in his office, they went in there, where I rarely went. I made it our home. She did all kinds of immature things over the years, like coming in and rearranging everything when I was gone, adding more pics of her, separating my family pics from their family pics, just petty crap.

I did like you, in the hall, did collage pics of our families, our vacations, etc. Old black and white photos of both sides of the family. She never stopped being a raging lunatic bitch, even after she got married and had a child of her own. Her marriage failed because her husband could not tolerate her obsession with her father. I had to make the difficult choice of leaving after 4 and a half years because he never wanted to get married or have any more children. I loved him, but wanted more, so she got him back all to herself in the end. He is alone, and will remain that way because of her.

You are the woman of the house. PERIOD. You do as you see fit. You do not have to feel sorry for it, and you do not have to cater to her.

My fridge is stainless steel so nothing can go on the doors, but the side of the refrigerator that faces the stove has photos all over it including Skids. I put them there, they don't bother me. And you can only see them if you're standing in front of the stove cooking so...

I hate refrigerators with crap all over them. Just not my style at all. Now my desk looks like crap with stacks of stuff on it but it is not in full view of every visitor that walks in the door.

I don't want even want a calendar on my frig as I don't want everyone knowing everything I am doing.

Other people can do what they want in their home but my refrig is not going to have stuff all over it - and that includes lining up cereal boxes across the top. I have a tiny, tiny kitchen and clutter just makes it unusable. Visual clutter bothers me (in my kitchen I don't care what you do in yours).

I'm so glad you all are taking this seriously. this is a way for a SM to establish her rightful place in the family hierarchy. A year and a half is long enough. We are not dogs marking our turf, we are trying to make our place in our own home.

I remember talking to my mom about some of my concerns and she said I was getting stressed out over minutia. What? While she may be right I felt so misunderstood. that's when I realized that probably only SPs realize how important the little things are, like pics on a fridge.

You have a good plan. thank goodness only my SS lives at home and he doesn't seem to care about pics on the fridge.

The only things posted on my fridge is the dry erase board and the list of rules! Rules we all follow. Pictures and items she wishes to display can be stored in her room. Since she occupies 1/4 of the bedrooms and is here 1/7th of the time I don't need her things in my space the rest of the time. Clear the clutter, its your home too!