It's all about the money
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I have a SD who will be 16 soon. IT'S ALL ABOUT THE MONEY. If we don't have cash, she doesn't have time for us. She refuses to obey her father. She openly states that she hates me. I have disengaged. The problem is my husband continues to funnel money her way. We do not have the funds for this!! And, my biggest problem is that her selfishness takes away from my bio's. They go without so she can have crap she doesn't need. I need help. I don't like her. My kids think she is spoiled. (They are right.) And, my DH is at a loss for what to do with her. He just keeps handing over money.
Start a "private" savings
Start a "private" savings account at a differnt bank with just your name on it. Stash $25 a week in it. At the end of the year you will have $1200 to spend on you and your bios without his knowledge. Because he isn't going to stop, trust me. I just shelled out another $100 for a tablet because ss broke the one he had a for a week. And it never ends...
Good for you! My dh has been
Good for you! My dh has been insisting on access to a money market account I have thru a private credit union that I established years ago before we were married. Um, no dh. Not happening. He literally came into our marriage with nothing because he is a terrible spender! There is no way in hell he is ever getting access to that account. EVER! That is MY emergency money from an inheritence I received years ago. This from a man who has not even managed to remove his soul-sucking exw from his 401k so if he dropped dead today on the way home that fat cow would get not me. I am baffled by how certain things just aren't a priority for dh.
401 to the ex. Tell him
401 to the ex. Tell him either get your name on it and prove to you he's done so or find another bed to sleep in.
I agree. In a heated moment,
I agree. In a heated moment, I told him she will just love him until the next "no". That can be now or ten years from now, but when the No comes out, the love will go away. I am just hopeless, I think.