That I told DH--seriously, that chick is missing a couple marbles. I know it, you know it, everyone else knows it, don't cheat on your GF with her, don't believe a damn thing she says, and remember the golden rule: Never stick your dick in crazy.

But I had just met him and obviously could not say these things. Actually, when we look at the time frame, BM finally made her move on him a week after I arrived (we were all at the same organization, and they'd been flirting back and forth for a bit) and apparently she hated me, even though she acted like she took me under her wing. She also told someone who told us later that she "predicted we would be together." So part of me thinks maybe I'm responsible for her crossing the line and in desperation got preggos.

I'm sure when I walked in and DH had mentioned casually that I was cute, it drove her over the edge. Sure, when I'm half your age and actually not psycho, I'd be cute to anyone.

(BM is 9 years older than DH.)

Same here. I wish DH never would've been with BM to begin with. She used him, got pregnant knowing he'd marry her if she did, then lied and cheated repeatedly. She never worked and expected him to do everything plus work full time. She counted on the fact that his grandparents had money so figured she'd be sitting pretty when they passed away and was PISSED when he finally left her ass. She even had the nerve to go to them LAST YEAR and beg them to pay for stepdevil's college since she wasn't going to be able to and DH refuses. HA, whatever. The kid got held back in 6th grade. She's 14 and in 8th grade. She's a below average student with zero common sense and you think she's going to make it to a big college?

DH says he wishes we would've met 15 yrs ago and had MY daughter as our own. My girl turns 15 next week and the two of them love each other.

Such is life.

oh I def wish that DH had never ever met BM, then none of this bs would ever have occured. Saying that though if he didnt f up his life byy spawning with her, we wouldn't have ever met as he prob would have been happy with the girl he was dating when he met BM! sad but true. But on the other hand when he's really upset me, I wish Id hung up the phone the first time he told me he had kids, he can be in hell alone then! }:)

agreed! I do wonder what they ever saw in their BM's? I just hate sometimes that he ever could have had feelings for her, there ar eno redeeming qualities about her what so ever!

Ok, if I am being completely honest with myself here, these are my "wishes":

That DH and BM never dated
That somehow, even though they never dated... SS still existed, exactly the way he is and had someone he could still go to every other weekend (LOL)
That DH and I would have had a child together several years back

Tasha1983, I love your list. DITTO!!!!!

i wish i was a little bit taller, i wish i was a baller.....

ok seriously- i agree w/ BS- i wish they'd never met/dated/spawned, but wish somehow miraculously the skids still existed

i wish MIL didn't have her ass on her shoulders.

i wish CS didnt exist- if u spawn and YOU file for divorce and custody, it should be because you WANT your kids and you WANT to take care of them, not to get CS.

i wish both DH and i met way earlier, cuz maybe then we'd have had kids together, not him w/ someone else or me not at all...

I wish that BM's mom wasn't so effed up-she taught her daughter to be this way. The way BM acts is exactly how BMs mom acted when her and BMs dad divorced. Maybe then we wouldn't have to deal with this crap.

If I couldn't have that wish then I wish DH would have met me instead of her and we'd still be married and SS would be mine as well as DS and probably another kid or two

I wish my ss would move, along with all my inlaws, to some far, far away country in which there is no methods of communication. BM can continue on in her life, I couldnt care less what she does.

i wish fdh had been smart enough to wear a condom. 85% of the stress in my life would be eliminated if he had made a smart choice 21 years ago, 12 years before i met him! if i couldn't change that, then i at least wish it had happened during a different week of the month, so sd would have never had the chance to implant and poison the garden of my life!

I wish that DH left BM a looong time ago so that I would have had more time with SD to "re-train" her.
I wish that SD wouldn't idloize BM like she does.
I wish that BM wasn't teaching SD to be just like her.
I wish that SD won't turn out to be like BM.
I wish that BM wasn't a hypochondriac with a medicine cabinet that resembles a pharmacy.

BM let's SD (she's 9) wear tank tops to school in WINTER.
BM takes SD to free clinics so she won't have to spend the $10 copay from DH's insurance.

I hope SM gets fatter and uglier by the day, gives reason to DH why he left her!!!
I hope the two adult daughters get fatter and uglier just like their mother, reminds DH every time he looks at them, that's what you get for sticking your dick in someone with inferior gene pool, you become a clone!!
I hope the skid gets divorced marries someone ten years older who has Six daughters and a weird son, who is pedophilic!!!
All i hope for is Karma!!!!!

I of course wish DH never got suckered by BM and saddled with a horrific skid, but, here are my current WISHES that could actually happen:

1. I wish DH would FINALLY agree to a DNA test (I know it's been 9 years but STILL, how could someone NOT want to know, especially with all the developmental delays and issues this kid has)
2. I wish the results showed that he is, in fact, NOT BABY DADDY (I would seriously almost bet a KIDNEY that he is NO bio relation)
3. He would look at skid the way I do, as a burden and nothing more
4. He would personally deliver BMs crotch dropping to her doorstep
5. "Free at last, Free at last, thank God almighty we're free at last" }:)

aahhhhhhh, I feel better

Everyone summed up my wishes!

I wished that BM was not so mentally imbalanced.
I wished that, when she finally got married, she would have had to deal with a BM who was as nutso crazy as she is.
I wished she wouldn't have used the skids are her pawns in order to hurt DH for not marrying her.
I wished she could have seen that we could have ALL given the skids what they needed...if she wouldn't have been so insecure in her role as their mother.

Hmm

I wish FMiL would take her head out of BM's arse.
I wish BM could suffer as SO has suffered due to PAS of SS.
I wish SS could suffer the attitude that SO has copped from him due to BM's PAS
I wish FMiL got the mouthful she deserves about how bad a mother she is to her only child (my SO)
I wish SO hadn't fucked up early in our relationship making me now paranoid
I wish SO would stop lying to me about money
I wish I had the guts to confront SO about about his lying
I wish I had the guts to give FMiL the mouthful she deserves (if she tries the whole GMOTY thing with our child which I am currently preg with I am sure I can find the guts!!)

I wish to win millions in lotto and buy a private island for SM's and SF's to get away to when they need a break from their SO's satan spawn!!