i don't agree that they were friendly. It was a controling situation, If she did not make the plans for us then I was not suppose to call or see him.
As far as pushing the son out the door, I think 8 months, for a 34 yr old engineer to find an apt is more than generous! He needed to realize that there are responsibilities and that he must be a contributing member of society.

I never asked that he stop being "friends" with anyone, BUT, the SD was at the house at least 2 nights and all day saturday, and did not want to go anywhere, just get take out and hang at the dining room table. I like to go places, socialize, see things. If we went out my husband would get a phone call and I would get texts and eamils as to where we went, how late we were out, did I go home or sleep at his house etc. This goes alot deeper, I could write scenarios on here but it would take days!! How about when she told me that her dads house was actually hers because he promised it to her....(she has her own house). It never happened, just another tactic to try to make me think.

I do hate her, for making me feel the way I do, I have never hated anyone this way, that is why I searched for someplace to talk to people, now I realize I am not alone in this. I hate her for how she treats us, for the lies, the deceit, the manipulation. In my entire life I have never met a person like this.

my husband has been divorced since 03. His ex-wife called 2 weeks before our wedding asking for some items in the house that she left behind...8 YEARS EARLIER!!!!! What goes thru these people heads??

I went to couseling approx 4 times (alone). I explained in detail during the first visit about the SK's and how I felt and how they acted. I would leave there sticking up for them. She told me my SD was an impulsive gambler and that my SS was high functioning Aspergers. I don't believe either of them falls under these categories. She was telling me to get them couseling (maybe trying to drum up business). My husband goes to counseling, and every couple of months I go with him. He sees how they are, he is very understanding, he is afraid to speak up to them, right now my SS has nothing to do with either of us, he is afraid the daughter will pull away also, they are still his blood no matter what, and I understand that also.

As far as holidays and getting together, they don't really do anything, our first Christmas the SD invited us over after dinner (when her BM left), we were not offered a drink or a bite to eat (I was not brought up this way). Her dad opened his gifts and we were out of there in 30 minutes. My birthday comes and goes (nothing), my SD did not even go to my bridal shower, she accepted the invitation and a few days before emailed and said something came up. No gift, no card.....when her dad confronted her she told him that she was afraid people at the shower were going to gang up on her. (OMG reallY!!!) why would they do that, because you are rotten and you were afraid of what I had told people about you!

I can control the anger if there is nothing to feed it